Well I'll answer this from the point of view of someone that has no idea what they are talking about. I don't think losing ones virginity alon will cheapen the act. It has to do with the way you go about it. If one does it just so they can lose their virginity then sure, it may cheapen it. However if you do it just because it feels right to you at the time then I think it can be just as special. To me I hope that sex will never just be a physical thing but then I've decided that I never really want to have sex unless I can deal with the consequences no matter how small the chance of them is. Now that doesn't mean a long term relationship but it also means no really random hookups with girls I just met that night. Anyway, like I said I really don't know what I'm talking about.
thanks shawn. and you arent supposed to know exactly what you are talking about. it's just a matter of personal opinion and how you feel is how you feel so i think it's a good answer. =)
i speak from inexperience but i have seen many friends go through all this. i personally believe that sex is what u make it. but as after the first time i think it does become easier to do it more and more often and easier for future relationships to hit that point. i mean, uve crossed the line once and there is no going back so i mean, it doesn make a big difference to do it again. and i think if u ever allow urself to have sex without emotion attached then it can become purely physical and hard for u to decipher in future occasions but if u make urself remember that sex is as much an emotional act as physical than things can be good. i dont know really. i havent personally been through it. but thats how i feel
just being devil's advocate....do you think it's good that we might have to remind ourselves that sex is emotional or should it be something that we inherently feel each time?
I think Ryan has a good point... I have watched my girlfriends, and you have been right there beside me, so you have too... anyway, I have watched them get a boyfriend or at least a male companion of some kind, give it up, and then the relationship ends and both move on. It does seem as though it's easier for them to have sex again after the first time. I think, though, that that idea is kind of sad, because it almost seems as though the person going through this loses respect in themselves, and figures it's ok to do it again even if their feelings aren't quite the same as the first time they had sex... Yeah, so that's my answer ;)
ok so this is totally how i feel about things. i dont think that once uve lost ur virginity that it cheapens the act. like ur friend said before its all how u handle it. im not a virgin anymore but im not gonna hook up with random guys just bc i can. i think thats gross. and even though ive already had sex, im still not as easy to give it out just bc ive done it before. i still think as much about who i do and dont give it to just as much as i did before i lost it. im a very emotional person and i think most girls are in general, so to some of us sex will never be just purely physical for us. i have more to say, but i dont wanna put all business into the street, so if u need more just IM me. hope this helped. love ya!
good response. i'm just doing this for my own interest so yes, it helped, haha. i wish we could have seen you over thanksgiving, but we will definitely have to get together over christmas! love ya!
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good answer, though =)
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Yeah, so that's my answer ;)
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