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[knova]

Dear co-workers and business associates, (both male and female),

Last I check it wasn't the 1940's.  Do not call me "Babe," "Girl," "Hon,*" or "Love.**"  While we're at it, my name is "Jessica," not "Jess" or "Jessie."

I almost understand it from some my older co-workers, but when the person it my own age it just leaves me baffled.

Don't mean to

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[mew0422]

That annoys me too. Although, I've found that it really depends on the tone and intent. At a previous job I had a co-worker who called me "kiddo" (I was the youngest one around) and that was fine because of how she said it, and then people called me by my first name that sounded disrespectful. (Sounds like Cheryl uses "Hon" with the right tone.)

How about using the term or something more obnoxious back at them?

[knova]

In a way it is the tone that's important, but I hate to put it that way because it's such a hard thing to measure. Two people can use the same nickname with the same tone and in one person it's endearing (like Cheryl or Jason) but from someone else it's annoying. It's hard to make the distinction because so much of it is dependent on how closely I've worked with the person and how much I like them.

If I worked more with these people I might do something about it, but for the most part I don't bother. (Though the one client who does this (and actually takes it a step or two further) I don't bother with anymore. No advertising for him on KJAZZ until he learns boundaries!) I'm here for so short a time and don't work closely with the people who do this that bug me. In three weeks I'll be back out on the road again. :)

[aprettykitty]

I call everyone chuck and if I really like them chuckie egg. Ha - that's probably just me though
At one work I had the same thing and I asked the guy in question to stop it. (he called everyone Love) It gradually started up again but by that time I'd gotten to know him and I didn't mind. Generally I would not like to be called "Babe," "Girl," "Hon," or "Love" either

[knova]

I don't think you've ever called me Chuckie Egg. :(

[aprettykitty]

You can't write a post saying you don't like being called silly names and then get upset when I don't call you chuckie egg. I think I only call under 5's chuckie egg because if I called anyone else it they would hit me:)
ok chuckie egg :) (ducks)

[knova]

I don't like being called silly names by CO-WORKERS. You crossed the line from co-worker to friend a long, long time ago. :)

Though when we were co-workers we certainly called each other some pretty silly names.

[bloodyaussie]

Agreed. It sounds condescending I think. But like you say it depends who is saying it and how they're saying it and how well you know them, etc.

[silimili]

Ugh...luckily the engineers I work around don't use condescending terms of endearment. But I do have to remind them every once in a while that Jenny/Jennie is not acceptable.

If all else fails you could always just respond with 'sweetie'...