All FA canines plez teach me how to bark and chase my tail !

[kofu]

FC report is in a very slow pace since I haven't tried to do it daily, but I have tried one on one contact with some folks here but it just require so much time. So I want to put everything aside tonight and talk about something else (report is nearly done though

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[wyoon]

I totally understand this. Furry references aside, I wonder if sometimes its a culture difference to. But eh, who knows. Sometimes people just click with others faster than the rest. :)

[kofu]

hmm I have always been shy through life until in high school (all school system ties a group of students together for number years in Taiwan until college, so a lot of time to get to know each other and break the ice eventually), I started to feel more comfortable among my classmates and know each person's limits so I don't go over board.

And I completely agree with your about the "click", and I guess it just happens sometime.....funny I found it during FC, I can be a more clicky person if I get a lil tipsy XD

[kofu]

Thanks for still read my stuffs Digeri. Though which part of it don't you understand??? Sorry about my poor English but I tried.
And sorry not this Furst Friday I am afraid, parents will be coming to town Saturday or Sunday

[shadowwolf676]

I've just learned to accept that words can't and possibly will never hurt me. Sure there were times I wanted to crack, but I've just let it go. Rather they are joking comments, or the words are just as serious. You'll know then that if a friend or a set of friends is still continuing to do this, then know when you've taken enough is enough, walk from them. If they want to know why you're leaving, tell them that you can't be with a group that's going to constantly joke at you, not joke with you. They maybe they'll see their mistake and forgive themselves or just let it roll off their backs. When you find someone or even a group that is willing to accept you, then you'll feel right at home.

Sure I'm not a canine (rather a wolf), but I still know my limits on being silly and on being rude.

[kofu]

I often let it go a little too much, sometimes I really need to fight back (not physically) to show them I can stand up for myself....verbally. And yes words has powers whether or not we use it for good or for bad, but knowing how to curse/swear properly kind can smooth things out too (like those your mother jokes), depend on who we dealing with

[jcjc]

我覺得你也不用一定要像別人一樣
溫和也許就是你的個性
我遇到白目也是就無視或是不理 我很少會直接反罵反嗆 因為如果對方更會吵 那就沒完了
所以直接迴避跟自己合不來的我覺得也蠻輕鬆的啊
可能是我本來就不會跟朋友打打鬧鬧 所以覺得這樣很好吧 XD
他們打打鬧鬧我就在旁邊看著笑而已
就是這樣我才是貓 XD

[kofu]

首先我想說.......看到你居然還把我用英文的帖子看完還回文,真的真的很窩心 *呼嚕嚕嚕嚕嚕嚕嚕*我盡量好好回,快睡著了說...

我也許不用像別人一樣
但是看到這些貓貓狗狗們我也會蠻想加入一起追打吵鬧,尤其是在這圈子裡面的犬科,通常他們都玩得很兇
像你說就在旁邊看而已,但是我會很羨慕他們能玩到什麼都不顧

有時候可能哥們會互相毀謗(以前在高中就這樣)但是大家是鬧著在玩的
我也知道在美國也一樣.大家在一起難免會互相損,只是用英文嗆回去好難

這種嗆還要有技巧的,不嗆回去別人就會覺得說哎呀糟糕是不是有傷到你(如果有這種朋友會這樣想還真難得
嗆咧, 還得注意會不會太超過.........我是蠻想要有這種唇槍舌戰的能力,嘴巴賤一點自己比較不會受傷,也比較容易維持自己的自信

我們家的人好像都要把別人貶的低低才覺得自己有存在的價值,我也很難免會有這種想法來支撐自己,不然感覺好像一沒有自信後人整個會垮台,自己爛到好像天快塌下來了一樣

你最後說的那幾句,我把我自己也加進去裡面了畫面想像的好清楚 !

[jcjc]

因為你寫的內容我看的懂啊 XD
很多別人的日記我想看懂還看不懂咧 XD

其實不只是在獸圈 我在其他同好圈(例如以前玩線上遊戲認識的同好)也有遇過一樣的情形
就是因為是一群人的場合 不能聊什麼深入話題 所以也只能互相吐槽對方吧
我也曾羨慕過為什麼大家都可以嘴巴那麼利害
可是我也跟你一樣會怕自己抓不到界線 傷了別人都不知道
你看別人互相吐槽好像沒什麼 可是如果真的有人受傷他也不一定會表現出來啊~
我被別人吐槽就算不爽我也會笑笑就算了 因為不想破壞氣氛
所以你怎麼知道對方真實的感受是什麼?

我覺得我無法拿捏這種相處模式 那到還不如就接受這樣的自己
好好的做自己 發揮自己的優點 一樣會吸引朋友
而且你會只吸引到溫和的朋友 而不是愛挖苦別人的朋友
想想 你就算學會了吐槽 但跟你合得來的都是同類型的人 不是更讓你困擾嗎?

而且其實跟你相處的時候 我覺得你很多搞笑的反應跟對話都已經非常好了
甚至有時候我覺得你有點太超過了 XD 把自己的形象都弄糟了
真的覺得ok了啦~

自信不是去扁低人家而來的 先了解自己 發覺自己的優點 去強化你的優點
自信自然就出來了
這是我的經驗啦~