Comments | kouredios: On the death of a child

kouredios

On the death of a child

Jun 10, 2015 09:14

A friend of Cassie's from school was killed crossing the road to his house yesterday.

( Everything else goes under a cut. )

quentin, parenting, cassie, deaths

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kcobweb June 10 2015, 21:33:49 UTC

Without even knowing him, I've been thinking about this boy and his family - and by extension, you guys, who knew him - all day. It just hits you in that scary dark place, you know?

kouredios June 11 2015, 13:40:38 UTC

Absolutely. Turns out one of Cassie's friends (who E would have met at her birthday party this year) was his cousin. Such a small town; so many connections. Something like this ripples through.

thanatos_kalos June 10 2015, 23:07:05 UTC

::hugs:: What you're feeling is perfectly normal, on all counts. And everyone grieves differently; it sounds like the school is taking all the steps it can, but what's most important is support and letting Cassie talk when she needs to. She will likely have nightmares for awhile and might need to get them out by writing stories or drawing pictures or something else creative that could get a bit scary-looking, though ask her about them rather than automatically calling a therapist (though, if she does have trouble moving on, talking therapy might not be a bad idea).

And every parent I know worries that the universe is out to get their child. ::more hugs:: It's just that parental perception that their child/ren is/are the centre of the universe and therefore every bad thing is a personal attack against them, rather than the world being a chaotic, unpredictable place. The former is potentially controllable, the latter is not. I wish I had a good answer for you on how to work with that. :(

kouredios June 11 2015, 13:41:23 UTC

Thanks hon. We're doing okay. Cassie's got a plan to collect memories from the kids at school and make a big card to give to his family. Having something to do is helping.

thanatos_kalos June 11 2015, 22:30:25 UTC

That's a good idea. :) I'm glad you're all doing okay!

ltlbird June 11 2015, 01:43:39 UTC

How awful. *hugs*

kouredios June 11 2015, 13:41:34 UTC

Thanks hon. Real hugs on Sunday?

ltlbird June 13 2015, 01:56:59 UTC

Sadly, I can't make it. Definitely hoping to get out to the Berkshires for a weekend this summer, though!

eve11 June 11 2015, 04:29:03 UTC

Such a terrible thing to happen. My heart goes out to his family and to you and Cassie.

kouredios June 11 2015, 13:41:44 UTC

Thank you so much.