What I look for in a girl...

[krisnwo316]

I've done a lot of reflection over the last week about this subject... And I realized I'm going about it all wrong. I would just sit and wait for something to come to me. I'm too passive. Chicks don't dig that. They don't want nice guys. Nice guys get the shaft

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[proz]

I'd like to give my thoughts on this, IM me later on.

I'll say this, before I met Kaylyn, I thought the same on all 4 points. After meeting her, my views have changed greatly.

Also, LD relationships do work only if you can see them on a regular basis. Being away for months is usually extruiatingly difficult. Possible, since my brother did it for your years with his current GF being 5 states away (but was able to see each other once or more a month thanks to airline benefits until she finally moved in with him).

[eatmymithkabobs]

I don't know your aim... ;_; mine's krisnwo420. It's set to my phone, so if I don't answer quickly, either I didn't hear it, or I'm at work. Ok, so the work part doesn't matter cause that's where I am right now, but yeah. XD

I don't really mind a long distance relationship. I mean, if it's one state over like wisconsin or iowa, then it's all good. I can just head over once a week on a day off or something. It means the time we do get is that much more special. And if the girl plays ffxi, then we can do stuff on there and whatnot.

As far as texas is concerned, seeing how I'd like to move back in a year or 2, then I don't see why I couldn't look there. Especially since all the fun stuff I do (cons) take place down there. And obviously that would be more costly to have a girl down there and whatnot, but you never know til you try.

[jadedandwasted]

You're half-right, Kris. Sometimes chicks don't dig passive guys. Sometimes we're just as shy as you are. Taking the initiative & making the first move is awesome, but only if the moment feels right, remember that. Or else getting the balls to make the first move is not going to matter if the girl is not feeling what you're trying to do/say. But confidence is a huge turn-on for girls. Me personally, I don't like it when a guy has zero confidence in himself...it means I have to inflate the person's ego & reassure them when they are more than likely not going to believe anything good I have to say about them (Chuck, anyone???).

[eatmymithkabobs]

Lmao!! Yeah, chuck needed constant ego boosting, didn't he. ^^;;;

[jadedandwasted]

He did! Nothing I could say would make him feel any better about himself. After a while, I got sick of it because it felt like nothing I was saying would ever make a difference.

[xxangelfallsxx]

ego boosting usually does nothing for a person with low self confidence, or it may temporarily, but then you must constantly feed it to the person in order to keep them happy. they need to find confidence within themselves rather than have people pamper and flatter them constantly. ^-^

[fusekazuki]

GOD DAMNIT I TOLD THIS SHIT ALMOST A YEAR AGO! All I can say is find your "skin" and wear it. I found mine and I love my life. I stopped trying to be a bunch of false images and preconceived notions.

[jeffito]

dude, are you ALIVE?

[krisnwo316]

kinda sorta. i have this "other" journal that i post in mostly. yanno, ever since the shit hit the fan here.