Comments | kristen729: Worries.

kristen729

Worries.

Dec 03, 2007 15:01

Tim's aunt died this last weekend. Apparently she had a massive heart attack last Monday (3 out of 4 arteries blocked), was in a coma on a ventilator for most of the week, they decided to remove the ventilator on Friday, and she died early on Saturday. She was only 55 or something, and has an 11 year old son ( Read more... )

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hiddensinful December 4 2007, 02:39:02 UTC

Yikes I'm so sorry to hear about all of this Kristen. What do you think they are going to do with the 11-year-old?

kristen729 December 4 2007, 18:02:27 UTC

I'm really not sure. Someone mentioned the possibility of the little boy and one of his older brothers (the less screwed up one) moving in to Tim's mom's house. Another suggestion was having various family members going over there in shifts every day. One day, to make sure that they have groceries and clean laundry, etc. Tim's mom isn't a complete invalid, but it's hard for her to stay on top of those things.

audelalune December 4 2007, 06:43:50 UTC

I'm sorry, that's a lot that is going on. A lot to handle. Take care of yourself.

the_k_is_silent December 4 2007, 08:06:43 UTC

I hope things will get better soon.

ultimateq42 December 4 2007, 09:03:55 UTC

I find it interesting how death, the one and only thing in life that is certain and known, can cause such havoc once it occurs. Maybe it's the unknown time of arrival, yet even those who do know it is imminent can have their lives thrown more asunder than when it is sudden and unforeseen. I don't think that I would be any less stressed than you in your situation (or Tim in his), but from an "I've been working on a logistic regression stats lab for too long" mindset, I tend to get weird and philosophical.

All I can say is enjoy what time you've got with them. However, I know if it was me, I'd want to spend time with family and friends, but I'd also want to make sure they didn't impede their lives too greatly waiting for me to move on.

kristen729 December 4 2007, 18:08:58 UTC

I really want to spend this time with them. But I also feel like my dad is somehow.. pulling away? He's been the one that is primarily responsible for my grandparents for many years. His brothers are all much further away, and my dad actually owns the house they live in - he bought it for them many years ago. He's the one that fixes things around their house, shows them again and again how to use the computer, moves furniture etc. But now that he's having to move to Delaware, I feel like he's... I don't know exactly. He wants to live his own life, especially since he's been the responsible one for so long, and he has enough on his plate worrying about Daphne's health. But I feel like leaving my grandparents alone this year is a really bad idea. And I don't know how to tell him that without offending him - he doesn't really respond well to those types of criticisms. I suppose I could stay behind, but it won't really be Christmas without the rest of the family around.

ultimateq42 December 4 2007, 18:24:12 UTC

are they moving to Delaware or just spending x-mas there?

kristen729 December 4 2007, 20:17:43 UTC

Moving there part time, and had originally wanted to spend Christmas there, but I just heard from my sister that we're doing Christmas in CA this year, which is really good. My grandfather was just released from the hospital, not because it's a good idea, but because he can't stand to be in a place where he's not allowed to smoke. He had a fever, and was trying to tell the doctor that the reason he had a fever was because he wasn't allowed to smoke. And he keeps calling my dad a deadbeat, so my dad is pretty much done with him. I'm sure he's particularly cranky because he's in pain, but after everything my dad does for him and my grandma, that's a really terrible thing to say.