Saturday

[krkhst]

Was a good time. But one thing happened that really just hit me in the gut. Met a guy randomly, seemed nice, my age, we had things in common we were chatting, and then he asked if I knew who some people were. Two of them happen to be women that the social norms call "hot". I said no. Later, one of them walked by and he asked "are you *sure* you don

Comments

[arielmn]

Don't let a piece of you die because some guy is a jerk.

Don't let a piece of you die because some guy is shallow.

Don't let a piece of you die because some guy has no taste, style, depth.

Sometimes it IS THEM not you.

[arielmn]

AND you guys can be dumb (sometimes) about talking to women. Maybe this was the equivalent of pulling your hair or punching you because he liked you.

If not that, he probably doesn't like horses anyway. {HUGS back at cha}

[julia_spring]

Don't compare yourself to hotlips. Hotlips has that wah that makes everybody feel gaga for a while. Since she's a rare thing in the SCA she's going to be treated like a novelty by nerdy-nerds the first time.

Your friends (and potential partners) are not the shallow ones who are drawn to wah just because it's there. Your friends are the people who care about you, want you to feel healthier, want to see you ride horses, and want to walk around the farmer's market with you.

Think of how your male friends would react to hotlips. Think of Rusty, Vidi, Oswald, Ben, J-R, Brian K... How would they treat you in that situation? How do they treat the women in their lives? I know you love each of these men, and I know you love how they are partners to their honeys. The different qualities that you admire in these men--and would gather up in someone for yourself--creates a man would does not react to hotlips like that. Seriously, nerdy-nerd is not good enough for you.

you probably know all this, but...

[illusiongrl]

Wait a minute, back up. From where I sit, that guy did you a favor: 1, he perked up the part of you that wants to connect with someone, and 2, he made it loud and clear way early that he's not worth your time. Energy saved...if you choose

PLUS:

[mightyjesse]

I can't tell you the number of times Zig commented on hot chicks to me before we started dating. There are advantages and drawbacks to being "one of the guys." The advantage is that they feel comfortable being themselves around you. The drawback is that they feel comfortable being themselves around you. Often, if you don't let that first "hubba, hubba" dent your ego, you'll find that the next thought out of their mouth is, "Does her mother know she dresses that way?!"

;-)

It's a lot like looking at horses. You can totally find Arabians beautiful and intelligent, but still be glad to your last breath that you own and are owned by a big galoot of a quarter horse. Because Ariabians are WAY too high strung.