Everything and Nothing

[kuretzu]

I was just wondering, what do people really want to talk about out there? This whole live journal thing seems pretty messed up. It seems to me a reflection of the real world; A world primarily devoid of passion. A mostly dead world. Too bad. Maybe it's because we think no one wants to know what we're really feeling and thinking about, which is of

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[eyebeams]

Porn.

[kuretzu]

Well said. You truely are a man of letters.

[dr_darian]

We live in a soceity where we are expected to be walled emotionally. I also find it funny that somones personal journal becomes filtered because others read it. If you want a clear explanation, turn to the news. Local will even suffice for this one.

All the bad things, the deaths and plagues, these are the "headlines" and the life is bieno bits are thrown either at the end, or in Chex's case, 30 minutes before the news even comes on.

Tragedy is easier to write about, because it tends to be all we hear.

[kuretzu]

Ha, well, that's the thing, people's live journals are public. But, it is the personal, the very personal that I would want to read about. We all edit and filter, as you say, I just think it's too bad, that's all. I'm just as guilty as the next person, probably more so, because I know my better-half will be reading it. Take last night for instance. When I went on live journal, I wanted to bitch about how I had just spent an hour dealing with the garbage and the recycling while I attempted to ignore my aching back. However, the public domain is not the place to air one's dirty laundry as it were.

[laurhead]

Different people use LJ for different reasons. I know this because people write entries analyzing why they have an LJ in the first place. Look around for them, it's interesting what they come up with (I think easyalchemy has one somewhere, off the top of my head). I originally got mine so I could follow what was going on in eccentrophile's life while she was in California, and now I just like staying connected.

I don't at all find my friends list devoid of passion or feeling, by the way. And stagnant is a genuine state of being, one which I happen to be stuck in temporarily, so sorry if it's all school school school. Just haven't been feeling the whole "life kicks ass" thing recently.

"Double entendre"

Give me a call sometime next week!

[kuretzu]

Perhaps "devoid" was too strong of a word.

Passion seldom bubbles to the surface, and yet I have to believe that people are full of it, passion that is. On the rare occasion we see passion make it to the surface it usually manifests in the form of an angry outburst, unfortunately. Anger, people arn't afraid to go there, that's the easy one. Lust, desire, sensitivity in it's higher forms, pain, sorrow, longing, wonder; while they are not passion specifically they are all strong experiences which make it to the public domain far less often then anger or frustration. I think we could all use some emotional Exlax.

You are one complex dude

[lemonwolf]

I'm sure we'd all love to come one to someone's LJ and read about how they'd love to screw us, but it is doubtful that is going to happen all that often. For one thing, I think that emoting in a public forum can open things up to hurting others. I know that I used to be very passionate on my LJ and people would read it wrong and get upset. I had to erase some of those entries. When you write something on LJ, you have to remember others are going to read it. This might not apply really to your wife, but if I said that I wanted to screw you (sorry Chris, but not really) and Katmo read that, if could possibly hurt our frienship.

But I do admit that there have been times I'd like to scream and rant about my personal pains on LJ, and just don't, because in all honesty I don't really think anyone would get it, let alone care.
But that is why you can mark something private, isn't it.

Oh well. How passionate has your LJ been, my man?

[kuretzu]

Well, it wouldn't have to happen all that often to keep one interested... I don't think you can hurt others by emoting in public, unless that is your intention. Actually, we usually hurt ourselves. We tend to invent things that arn't actually there and then we devise even more elaborate contexts to justify our invention. We tend to forget that people just are, and shit happens. You know, but then again, we are talking self censorship here, or at least that seems to be the direction the discussion is taking (I know weird sentence, but hey, that's how I think, right.) I'm not convinced we should be afraid of hurting others unintentionally; of course hurting someone intentionally is another thing. However, it is most likely our fear of opening up that stops us from emoting, and social expectations are secondary, but both factor into the equation. After all, we're not just talking about boinking here, we're talking about opening ourselves up and being honest, knowing someone wants to boink you would just be a side benefit. Hell, I think

[eccentrophile]

if you want more passion ass-kicking life from my journal you'll have to look back to the entries i wrote between february 22 and september 19 - when i actually had things going on. i get what your saying about some people being pretty reserved - but i think alot of people do write some pretty details and personal stuff. i really have no problem sharing the most intimate details about my personal life (if you look hard enough there's even entries in there about how unrewarding i find group sex). the truth is, everyone that cares already knows how i'm feeling right now (mostly useless and incredibly anxious to find meaningful work) and i don't feel like boring them with it day after day. when my situation changes there'll be plenty 'o exclamation points.