Dear Myself
I'm working out some issues in my love life right now, and I'm pretty sure I know what I have to do. I find writing things down helps me sort out my thoughts. (This was actually pretty therapeutic!) Here I present to you my Slightly Schizophrenic letter to myself.
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Dear Myself,
A few years ago I met this amazing guy. I think my affection for him had a lot to do with timing: he entered my life exactly when I needed him, and he helped me realize my self-worth. He was there for me in ways none of my friends had ever been before (previously I'd had some unhealthy relationships that eroded my self-confidence) and a true role model. As our friendship grew I soon fell for him, but there never seemed to be a good opportunity to tell him how I felt; he went through a few different girlfriends and never seemed to stay single for long. I didn't want to lose our friendship, and I'm not sure I made the right decision, but I never did confess my feelings. I thought if I made it obvious enough through my actions, he'd figure it out and come to me on his own if he felt the same way. He was an exchange student, so he left, as I'd known he would from the beginning. (He comes back to see us now and then.) Regardless, right now he's involved in a relationship that seems pretty serious. We're still good friends to this day, and I think I may be getting over him at last.
I can't deny that I wish he were still in my life, but I know I'm a better person for having known him and I'm getting along fine on my own. Well, that's the problem... I'm still on my own. Since him, I haven't found any other guy who measures up. I feel like anything less would be settling, which wouldn't be fair to me or the guy. A number of people have shown interest in me, but I haven't feel the same way about any of them.
P.S. I'm leaving the country for a while to study abroad, and besides being great for my education, I feel it'll be a good opportunity for me to get away from it all and think things through, and maybe meet some fresh faces along the way.
Sick of Being Single
Dear Needs a Reality Check,
You say you're over him, but are you really? I think the reason nobody else measures up to him is because they aren't him. He sounds like a great guy and all, but he's out of the picture, and your vestigial crush is keeping you from seeing the desirable traits in other guys. Unless he's got a clone somewhere, as long as you keep looking for his carbon copy, you'll keep being disappointed.
He's not the last guy who'll see how great you are-- if you show them. If you're holding back, they'll notice your heart's in another place, and that'll keep any potential boyfriends from realizing your worth.
Sounds like you're trying to get over him, which is good, but you need to take the final step. Make an effort to see the good in other guys without comparing them to him. If they feel you're genuinely willing to give them a chance, they just might start to feel the same way, too.
Again with the foreigners, eh? Got a thing for accents? I think getting out sounds like a great idea. Just keep in mind if you don't change your ways it'll be more of the same, but all the experiences you'll have abroad will likely make it easier to forget about him and open your mind to new possibilities.
Good luck out there.
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Dear Myself,
A few years ago I met this amazing guy. I think my affection for him had a lot to do with timing: he entered my life exactly when I needed him, and he helped me realize my self-worth. He was there for me in ways none of my friends had ever been before (previously I'd had some unhealthy relationships that eroded my self-confidence) and a true role model. As our friendship grew I soon fell for him, but there never seemed to be a good opportunity to tell him how I felt; he went through a few different girlfriends and never seemed to stay single for long. I didn't want to lose our friendship, and I'm not sure I made the right decision, but I never did confess my feelings. I thought if I made it obvious enough through my actions, he'd figure it out and come to me on his own if he felt the same way. He was an exchange student, so he left, as I'd known he would from the beginning. (He comes back to see us now and then.) Regardless, right now he's involved in a relationship that seems pretty serious. We're still good friends to this day, and I think I may be getting over him at last.
I can't deny that I wish he were still in my life, but I know I'm a better person for having known him and I'm getting along fine on my own. Well, that's the problem... I'm still on my own. Since him, I haven't found any other guy who measures up. I feel like anything less would be settling, which wouldn't be fair to me or the guy. A number of people have shown interest in me, but I haven't feel the same way about any of them.
P.S. I'm leaving the country for a while to study abroad, and besides being great for my education, I feel it'll be a good opportunity for me to get away from it all and think things through, and maybe meet some fresh faces along the way.
Sick of Being Single
Dear Needs a Reality Check,
You say you're over him, but are you really? I think the reason nobody else measures up to him is because they aren't him. He sounds like a great guy and all, but he's out of the picture, and your vestigial crush is keeping you from seeing the desirable traits in other guys. Unless he's got a clone somewhere, as long as you keep looking for his carbon copy, you'll keep being disappointed.
He's not the last guy who'll see how great you are-- if you show them. If you're holding back, they'll notice your heart's in another place, and that'll keep any potential boyfriends from realizing your worth.
Sounds like you're trying to get over him, which is good, but you need to take the final step. Make an effort to see the good in other guys without comparing them to him. If they feel you're genuinely willing to give them a chance, they just might start to feel the same way, too.
Again with the foreigners, eh? Got a thing for accents? I think getting out sounds like a great idea. Just keep in mind if you don't change your ways it'll be more of the same, but all the experiences you'll have abroad will likely make it easier to forget about him and open your mind to new possibilities.
Good luck out there.