Comments | l_shades: *digging the heels in*

l_shades

digging the heels in

Oct 22, 2010 22:52

I'm not on Facebook. I don't particularly want to be on Facebook, especially if I'm going to have people like high school classmates wanting to 'connect' with me or former and current employers wanting to have a snoop at my personal life. I know, I know, I don't have to accept them, but as I understand it they can still look at anything I've not ( Read more... )

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newsy891 October 22 2010, 11:38:28 UTC

Two thoughts...

Option 1: Talk to people about the issue; this will help them meet your expectations to remember to include you. Let them know, "I don't want to be on Facebook for my own reasons - but I'm feeling left out, and you can help me by taking 10 seconds to email me the exact same thing you post on Facebook." After all, your needs can't be met unless they're voiced to the people who can meet them.

Option 2: Create a Facebook page under a name that isn't quite yours (something like "L Shades," or your first and middle names, or your middle name and first few letters of your last name, or something else that would be clearly you to the few people you'd WANT to know about you but would disguise you from unwanted searches). And then set EVERYTHING POSSIBLE friends-only - but most importantly, if you don't want to be found by anyone, do not use your actual name. If you take this option, have me or someone else well-versed in Facebook teach you how.

l_shades October 22 2010, 18:31:02 UTC

*nods* both very good ideas... thanks Newsy. I'll give the first one a shot and see how it goes, then have a go at the second. I'll be sure to come to you for advice if I do. Thank you again!

purajo October 22 2010, 15:34:15 UTC

This is precisely why I DO NOT have a Facebook account. For the same reasons you just listed. I really don't want to be found by people from school, or have annoying relatives snooping and gossiping about the fact that I fangirl Giant Alien Robots amongst other things. They already think I'm strange.

I'm happy with LJ to be honest... And I love Twitter. That's as far as it goes. I REFUSE to get FB, eventhough I know I can use a fake name like this. I still dont want it.

I do tell my friends, if it's so important, tell me on Twitter/LJ or email me, or sms me, but I am not getting on FB. Alternatively, if it IS super important, I just hijack my best friend's account and look. She rarely uses hers anymore.

So don't let anyone pressure you into joining FB if you don't want to. If they keep at it, simple - ask them to join LJ.

l_shades October 22 2010, 18:32:31 UTC

*nods* Thanks jo, I'm not intending on joining the FB bandwagon any time soon if I can at all help it.

lonegamer78 October 22 2010, 19:09:59 UTC

Much as I would love to join FB, what you listed and the number of issues that's been cropping up on FB recently is what keeps me away from using it. Granted, I'd get more social networking, but I can't see its worth if I have to deal with gossip harpies, snoopers (that may become stalkers), or cyber bullies (teased enough in elementary school, thankyouverymuch). Like Pura, I'm fine with dA, LJ, Twitter, and email.

raisedbymoogles October 22 2010, 20:08:34 UTC

You and I will be the last two people not on Facebook. *rowr!*

rosieknight October 23 2010, 02:14:08 UTC

Make that the three of us.

(Dear interwebs, please stop telling me I "can use your Facebook or Twitter name" to log into things. I'm on neither and am happy this way. Thanks, Rosie.)

sakon76 October 23 2010, 02:17:46 UTC

Make that four. I don't want to be that connected!

(Plus both Facebook and Twitter are useless for posting fanfic.)

shadowshock October 23 2010, 03:14:48 UTC

I do have a FB account and you don't have to put anything about yourself on there. Just because they ask doesn't mean you have to tell. That being said... you DO NOT have to have a FB account to have a life! Sheesh, it can get annoying to hear people go on and on about FB. If they really want to tell me something, I'd rather you talk to me in person or over the phone if you really need to say something to me. Some people seem to just use it as an excuse to put you on their "friends" list and then totally forget about you.

But I do use FB to connect to some overseas people (ie, Japan) and that's really the main reason I got it, not to connect to people I already I know through other methods.

Bottom line to my rant, you're fine without it. :)

tripleguess October 23 2010, 05:33:56 UTC

Heh. We both have no interest in being someone's 784th "friend". =D