So Jessy has been hit with genius (she thinks) and it hurt (not really) :P

[ladygryffindor]

OK so shame, shame on all of us. Even myself.

I have just made an Epiphany! And this is mostly due to the fact that the family has turned down a path I can not follow and have undergone sadness due to it. The family, being all the friends we all hold so dear. Has been a nomadic entity that has moved from social group to social group for one reason

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[elaureth]

Ummm, wow. Just, wow. I think your friends need some sort of therapy. Really. I've heard that scientific studies have shown that WoW can actually be addicting, and so I'm sure it goes for all role-playing stuff, and the way your group of friends obsesses over one thing after another . . . it's just scary! Whatever happened to just getting together, hanging out, and doing nothing?! Maybe just, I don't know, having a conversation? One that doesn't revolve around a game? One that, perhaps, involves a well rounded selection of topics ranging from personal issues all the way up to global events?

Sheesh, the only games my friends ever got that dedicated to were drinking games. Funny, I can't seem to remember how to play any of those any more. Probably because I always lost. Losing at that kind of game doesn't lend itself well to having a lot of coherent memories the next morning of actually playing the game. But it made for some really great conversations!!!

. . . of course, I can't remember those either.

[ladygryffindor]

I can't believe that it never occurred to me. But like I said I think that I was just able to follow the group pretty easy and just never noticed it until now. Figures you only notice things once they happen to you. :P I think we've all gotten so use to events as a means to all hang out that we've forgotten that could make a priority to just hang out and that's ok. We use to have drinking parties but the people present was still determined by the present theme because you have to got to the event to know when the party was. 0_o

Gosh I think we do all need help.... LOL!

[sunshine_tears]

I must admit, Jessy... I don't agree with the "cult" theories. It really makes it sound worse than it is

[dreamqeen]

I think part of what Jessy is saying is that it seems usually when the group finds a new interest, the majority of the people try it out. when it's something not everyone is interested in, those who aren't interested seem to get left out of a lot. with our group there seem to be a lot of spontaneous get-togethers. when a planned activity is finished, everyone just goes to ihop or someone's house to relax and have fun. people who were not at said activity are rarely thought of to be invited because they weren't there for the other part of the event, and once everyone is busy chatting or whatever, no one seems to think to invite others. the more this happens, the more people feel left out because then when everyone is invited to something, those who were at the last get-together might talk about something that went on there and those who weren't there not only feel left out from the new activity but also left out of some general group activities. it just gets frustrated

[ladygryffindor]

I quote one of my one of my most inspirational mentors

[deviousvampyre]

I can see where things can get all weird like you said. I have felt dis-included since the whole DAG thing started. Yes, I've been invited, but its not really my thing. But to those who love it, go for it.
I know firsthand how it feels to feel this way Jessy...I've felt that way with all the girls from back home, and even here. I swear, I've probably spent the most time since moving into the new townhouse with Chris (my fiance) than even the people I live with, and that's kind of ridiculous. But I've lost my close connections with people I was close with, and it sucks. I try to make things better as much as I can, but I can only do so much from one side. Others have to help too. It just sucks because I have been so busy with things that it is really hard to find time that we can all chill together. A lot of the time, people are gone or have other plans or whatever.
It really just isn't the same anymore. :-\

I'm free! heh

[ladygryffindor]

And it looks like I'm going to stay pretty open durning the summer. I've kinda just given up on the group thing because I don't want to be part of DAG and that seems to be where the group is going to stay until I leave for Korea. :( But we can hang out. We can talk about games, and movies, and harry potter movie coming up, and twilight and well everything we normally talk about without DAG. :D I might be hanging out with teh Amy on Monday for a little bit but I'll have Tuesday after 5 completely open for hangout time. :)