My father used to do that to me when he'd come over to my house. Then, one day, he came over with his girlfriend Judy and started inspecting my refrigerator to make sure I'm eating right. Judy, who comes from an upperclass, old blood east coast family, dragged him aside and had a talk with him.
He hasn't done it since. I'm -so- grateful.
The only thing I can suggest is putting your foot down when they behave this way and demanding that they treat you like the adult that you are. The trick is doing so while sounding like an adult and not a petulant teenager. It's something I never quite mastered, which is why it took another adult (Judy) to point out to him how impolite his behavior was.
comments seem brokeladylynxaNovember 23 2005, 18:51:06 UTC
So I'll try again
My mom: Where's the broom Me: I'll get it later My mom: Where's the broom? Is it in here? (Standing next the closet she knows its in) Me: Just leave it I'll get it later. My mom: Is the broom in here? I don't mind. Me: Yes the broom is in there, but just leave it I'll get it later. My mom opens closet gets broom begins sweeping. (Actually I think she just opened up the closet and grabbed the broom, I don't think I even said yes it was in there)
Simular conversation over the vacumm, moving furiture, etc.
Even more aggrivating, Jims family will come in tommorow and say how nice the place looks and how much trouble we went to, but she thinks we still have alot to do. (Which is only true because I cann't cook the turkey and set the table till tommorow).
I think you're just going to have to get to the point where what they say doesn't matter, because they aren't going to change overnight. It's sad that they can't be supportive of you in the ways that you need, but you're happy and you need to not let them mess that up for you. As long as you and Jim are happy with things, that's all that really matters. You guys are the ones who have to live there, afterall!
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He hasn't done it since. I'm -so- grateful.
The only thing I can suggest is putting your foot down when they behave this way and demanding that they treat you like the adult that you are. The trick is doing so while sounding like an adult and not a petulant teenager. It's something I never quite mastered, which is why it took another adult (Judy) to point out to him how impolite his behavior was.
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My mom: Where's the broom
Me: I'll get it later
My mom: Where's the broom? Is it in here? (Standing next the closet she knows its in)
Me: Just leave it I'll get it later.
My mom: Is the broom in here? I don't mind.
Me: Yes the broom is in there, but just leave it I'll get it later.
My mom opens closet gets broom begins sweeping. (Actually I think she just opened up the closet and grabbed the broom, I don't think I even said yes it was in there)
Simular conversation over the vacumm, moving furiture, etc.
Even more aggrivating, Jims family will come in tommorow and say how nice the place looks and how much trouble we went to, but she thinks we still have alot to do. (Which is only true because I cann't cook the turkey and set the table till tommorow).
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