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[ladyofthemasque]

A friend accused me of being cold (a cold hearted bitch was implied) just because I said I knew I'd eventually lose interest in a favorite character (who had died in a favorite intense storyline when I did not want them to die (and no, not a George RR Martin story)), and knew I'd be able to walk away some day

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[nocturnus33]

I think that judging a friend reaction by calling them cold heart is quite aggressive and shows very little empathy. Everyone copes with pain in different ways and there is no point in being judgmental about it. She/he should have known better. [And yes, I agree with you: age gives you more perspective]

[ladyofthemasque]

We have reconciled. I managed to get more articulate, and she managed to grasp what I meant.

I confess I had forgotten just how -much- it hurts when you don't know that the pain will eventually ease. If you know something will end, you can endure a lot more; if you have no experience, no reassurances, no hope, it becomes far less bearable.

[nocturnus33]

It is good to know that you reconcile. :D

[alexandralynch]

It's worse when it's people you know.

When someone has a terminal condition, and is not willing to make the lifestyle changes to get the most time possible, and is, in fact, doubling down....well, I don't think it's cold and wrong to say, "He's going to be dead in ten years, maybe less." And I don't think it's wrong to allow for that in future planning and current decisions. Especially when economic survival is in question.