Brain Dump

[ladyscience]

Here's my take- the human heart/ brain has a huge capacity to love. I get poly people in this way- it is entirely possible to love more than one person at once. And maybe if society wasn't structured the way it is, and if humans weren't generally so jealous, polyamory may work

Comments

[shogunhb]

It's totally innate. We evolved as social/cooperative animals, sure. But, we still want to monopolize our resources (even love), but we want others to share their resources with us. Of course, unless we can get away with cheating the system, we tend to play fair... most of the time.

I would read that as: we all want to be polyamorous, but we'd prefer that our partners be exclusive.

[bonisagus]

I totally agree with Shaughn.

[anitra]

Of course you can love more than one person. That is how healthy marriages continue to work once there are children in the picture. :) It's also how folks with "natural-born" kids can still choose to foster or adopt.

That said, I think jealousy is definitely innate. As a Christian, I'd say it's part of our sin nature.

[dontcallmemolly]

I totally agree that it is possible to love more than one person at a time. My issue is more the stability of a non-binary primary relationship. IMHO, for a relationship to work long-term, there has to be a clear "you are my #1 person" hierarchy. As in families, where the children, while loved as much as the spouse, know that the parents are united with each other first and foremost. When you try to introduce another person into the relationship, while the feelings may be equal, who is the alpha partner? If you disagree that an alpha partner is necessary, look to any polygamous society and you will see that there is always a first wife

[ladyscience]

No, I'm not. I've just being thinking about this stuff in the abstract lately. Hipster navel-gazing. ;-)