that is a really tough situation. keep in mind, though, this is your graduation. yes, your family matters, but in the end this is your night. who would YOU like to be there, personally? if you could pick exactly who, would your dad be there? because guess what? you CAN pick. =]
also... maybe you could try to look at this from your dad's point of view. say you had a daughter who you totally screwed things up with, and realized your faults. you wanted to make things right and be there for her for her ONLY high school graduation.
would you be upset if she turned you down? would you understand because of how you acted, and feel like you deserved it?
i don't know. that has to be the hardest thing ever. =[ maybe keep in mind that if you want your dad to be a part of your life, and you say no, will he leave? i mean. he may leave again either way, but would that give him MORE of a reason to?
yea i'm with katie on this one... you pick with what you're comfortable with! it is your graduation :)
though not to this extreme, my mother has a habit of doing this as well: most of the time she stays estranged from me, but then, suddenly, she'll have a habit of popping in when it's "important". unfortunately, there's not that much i can do about it; the relationship is what it is and i can't change it, because i think, in a strange way, that's her form of trying to make up for lost time as though she feels bad. it's not neccesarily right, but..
if you think your father will ruin graduation in the slightest, don't let him go. tell him, "maybe another time" or something else. but if you're willing to take that chance, then go for it!
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keep in mind, though, this is your graduation.
yes, your family matters, but in the end this is your night.
who would YOU like to be there, personally? if you could pick exactly who, would your dad be there?
because guess what? you CAN pick. =]
also... maybe you could try to look at this from your dad's point of view.
say you had a daughter who you totally screwed things up with, and realized your faults.
you wanted to make things right and be there for her for her ONLY high school graduation.
would you be upset if she turned you down?
would you understand because of how you acted, and feel like you deserved it?
i don't know. that has to be the hardest thing ever. =[
maybe keep in mind that if you want your dad to be a part of your life, and you say no, will he leave?
i mean. he may leave again either way, but would that give him MORE of a reason to?
gosh. i love you.
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though not to this extreme, my mother has a habit of doing this as well: most of the time she stays estranged from me, but then, suddenly, she'll have a habit of popping in when it's "important". unfortunately, there's not that much i can do about it; the relationship is what it is and i can't change it, because i think, in a strange way, that's her form of trying to make up for lost time as though she feels bad. it's not neccesarily right, but..
if you think your father will ruin graduation in the slightest, don't let him go. tell him, "maybe another time" or something else. but if you're willing to take that chance, then go for it!
good luck!
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it's totally up to you
and if you decide not to let him come then i hope he's mature enough to understand
good luck
and
i love you!
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so i'll just say i love you and i'm sorry you had to deal this :(
muah!
much love <3
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