Thats a smart response but I disagree. I cant control what they think but I can manipulate what they think to coincide with how either 'truth' or how I want them to think (which is usually the same thing).
And usually, I need them to give me favors and things which they wont do if it seems I'm ungrateful. I get the impression that I should exaggerate the gratitude in order to maintain the connection/friendship.
I think there are ways to express gratitude that are not big fake smiles and lies but also do not hurt. I think you could explain it to them the way you've explained it to us. If they are friends worth having they will understand.
... and now for a zen moment: "You correctly express emotion by expressing emotion". Seriously. There is no right or wrong of it on your end; how people react to you is their issue entirely
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You'd be surprised how effective #1 can be if you really try at it. I find people avoid me in #2 and that leads to no hope for future gained-ground.
"A bit" is an understatement. I do believe that sounds like an invitation! Haven't heard one of those in a long time. I never know if you guys are irritated at me or just impartial to my existance. Truth be told, I felt like I was trying too hard getting little to no return.
But an invitation - damn. If only it had an event attached to it.
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And usually, I need them to give me favors and things which they wont do if it seems I'm ungrateful. I get the impression that I should exaggerate the gratitude in order to maintain the connection/friendship.
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"A bit" is an understatement. I do believe that sounds like an invitation! Haven't heard one of those in a long time. I never know if you guys are irritated at me or just impartial to my existance. Truth be told, I felt like I was trying too hard getting little to no return.
But an invitation - damn. If only it had an event attached to it.
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