Imagine settling into a warm bath. It's great because it's soothing. Your muscles begin to relax, you forget about your anxieties. You submerge your head in and suddenly you cease to hear the world. Just your heartbeat.
After a while though, you start to get bored. It's hard staying in the same position for quite some time. Your hands get all wrinkled. The water gets "maligamgam" and then just plain cold.
The challenge is knowing when it's time to get out of the water before you realize you're just sitting in a tub of your own filth.
novelty is the spice of life. its what keeps your senses stimulated, otherwise, your brain would just go on automatic with every familar stimulant. joseph campbell said that as humans it is inherrent in us to continually seek rituals of passage...we continually seek for that next level whatever it is...it is our need for growth manifesting..
being unsettled with the feeling of settling is that precisely...it forces you to ask the question whats next? what are my desires? have the courage to be honest with yourself and entertain the possibilites, kahit in your mind lang...you'll find your way...its wierd but somehow ive come to prove that when we put the questions out there, the answers emerge somehow...
I agree with Pot Lar. :) Of course, at this age, we are free to really weigh out our options. We have the license to make "careful" mistakes. However, I have to add in my previous post --
It is a challenge to know when to get out when you realize you're just soaking in a tub of your own filth -- but also to stay in when you know that this is where you're supposed to be.
human beings are creatures of changes lar.. =) but the funny and ironic thing about being a creature of change is that in the end you still yearn for the familiar to hold on to, and you still look for something stable to be the foundation of all the ruckus that you will inevtiably look for in the course of living
( ... )
lady says
anonymous
February 28 2007, 10:47:52 UTC
Things always appear clearer after the dust settles.
I guess settling occurs when you stick to people and things that cease to evolve along with you. It didn't evolve like you did, so you feel weary towards it. It feels old, unexciting, insufficient even? Like a fad you outgrew, that just has no appeal to you anymore.
The best companion or situation is one that is evolving, just like you are. Only then would sticking to someone or something not feel like "settling" anymore. It would be healthy, happy and very much conducive to growth. Growth for the both of you :-)
Comments 7
After a while though, you start to get bored. It's hard staying in the same position for quite some time. Your hands get all wrinkled. The water gets "maligamgam" and then just plain cold.
The challenge is knowing when it's time to get out of the water before you realize you're just sitting in a tub of your own filth.
Reply
novelty is the spice of life. its what keeps your senses stimulated, otherwise, your brain would just go on automatic with every familar stimulant. joseph campbell said that as humans it is inherrent in us to continually seek rituals of passage...we continually seek for that next level whatever it is...it is our need for growth manifesting..
being unsettled with the feeling of settling is that precisely...it forces you to ask the question whats next? what are my desires? have the courage to be honest with yourself and entertain the possibilites, kahit in your mind lang...you'll find your way...its wierd but somehow ive come to prove that when we put the questions out there, the answers emerge somehow...
post lagi lars...its great to hear from you!
Reply
It is a challenge to know when to get out when you realize you're just soaking in a tub of your own filth -- but also to stay in when you know that this is where you're supposed to be.
Reply
Reply
But it's not very easy.
Any decision can be justified. Which one's the right one?
Reply
Reply
I guess settling occurs when you stick to people and things that cease to evolve along with you. It didn't evolve like you did, so you feel weary towards it. It feels old, unexciting, insufficient even? Like a fad you outgrew, that just has no appeal to you anymore.
The best companion or situation is one that is evolving, just like you are. Only then would sticking to someone or something not feel like "settling" anymore. It would be healthy, happy and very much conducive to growth. Growth for the both of you :-)
Reply
Leave a comment