Time keeps on moving

[larp_tech]

This morning was one year since my brother called to say Aaron had been killed.  It has been interesting to see the changes this has made in my family.  I think I spent more time thinking about Aaron this year than I did any previous year.  A fact which embarrasses me in some ways.  I never got the chance to be the weird uncle, at least not the way

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[quinzel]

You did your best with the time you had. Seeing what you could have done rather than being happy with what you did do (and no, it wasn't average or less,) won't help you move forward. Everyone knows what a kind, generous person you are, based on your actions if nothing else. We can't all be wrong. Anyway, didn't mean to preach, especially in such a pot, kettle, black kind of way. Mostly just meant to offer sympathy and support. ::hugs::

[persephone65]

:hug:

Grieving takes longer than we think,and I think you never stop missing some people but the missing of them becomes more managable in time. It is good to read you writing about Aaron, who by his pictures and others' remembrances of him seems to have been such a handsome and good hearted young man. As Moira said, it runs in the family. :)

Have you ever thought about writing a letter to Aaron saying the things you wanted to say to him and do for him? What you did with the letter once it was written is not as important as the writing of it, I think. But I am glad to see you remembering your nephew here and sharing a part of both him and you with us. Don't ever feel like you are rambling - we're here to listen and support as best we can!

[sjo]

I remember you playing with Aaron when he was just a kid. I would have loved to have had an uncle like that. I think you were a pretty darned good uncle.

As others have said, grieving does take longer than we expect. We're here for you whenever you want to ramble about it.

[ausir]

:hugs:

[ravenrose]

I was actually thinking about this just this morning... remembering your phonecall...
It's been a hard year... Aaron was a great kid by all accounts, and I know you have been hurting.. those of us who love you have been hurting with you, for you. It is always the case that when we look back at someone we've lost, we think of how we "failed" them. Not enough time, didn't say "I love you" enough, didn't make it to their last event... regrets are natural, as long as you don't let them beat you up. They are a part of the greiving process.

I think going to Mardi Gras in celebration of Aaron's 21st is a fine idea... may I join you?

Take things easy, hon. We are here for you...

*hugs*