ISO

[larp_tech]

When looking for housemates to move into an existing group house (if you will), if the candidate is in an ongoing poly relationship, is it okay to want to meet all involved parties before making a decision about acceptability?  Or should the judgment be based solely on the individual who would be a full time resident?

Ideas or suggestions?

Comments

[evcelt]

I go with the majority opinion here. If you know the person will have someone over a lot, you should meet that person too- be they lover, child, good friend, aged relative, etc.

The flip side

[moiramisu]

Basically what's been said is reasonable - depends how often guests might be coming over. The thing is though since this will be a new living situation, the person may well not know yet; maybe he is hoping that he can have guests more often than in any current situation.

But to be logically perverse for a moment - what about the potential roommate's side? Does he or she, about to commit to a new living situation, also have a right to ask about the situations the current household members have? I know if I were looking to move in with someone I'd want to know who all wanders into what would be my home on a regular basis. Or is it more that the potential housemate is made to understand he must accept the house "as is" and leave it at that?

Re: The flip side

[flaviarassen]

I assume you mean more that the potential house-mate can
ask to meet people & then decline the offer - not say
something like "I'll move in, but only if that awful
person doesn't come over more than once a month."