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[lazyfox]

Got home from a drive with my dad a little bit ago.

He told me he's "not convinced" about my "choice" and that he will be "pushing back" in order to fill his "fatherly duties".

So, pretty much, he'll be trying to make me straight. For the next 5 YEARS while I live at home for college.

My life just gets... better... and better...

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[phoenixmuse]

I'm sorry. I'll try to throw some positive energy your way. Maybe it will work for others a lot better than it does for me.

[cuedus]

Hey Cutie... you are too fine and seem too sweet not to both add you as a friend (hope you don't mind) and offer a little advice in regards to your sanity.

Although it is cushy to live at home while you go to school, you might consider getting a job and saving up lots and lots of your own money so you can live on your own. Parents don't have to agree -- that is their right -- but you shouldn't have to have your daily existance be a war ground.

If your mom is sympathetic, you might wanna talk to her. If not, don't. Soak it up as long as you can. But please, I beg you, please start looking for a way out WITHOUT cursing or parting ways with your dad -- especially if they are not pulling away financial support for your education, just offering brain-washing techniques as the price of your living there.

But it could be fun, too. You could do things like ask him what makes him think he is heterosexual? It would be fun. And if he isn't as macho as he sounds, he might hear you...

Good luck,

Quentin

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[lazyfox]

Thanks for your concern bud. (By the way I love your smile in the LJ icon that I've seen around)

If you couldn't tell, this is sorta where my journal went "friends only", so a lot of things have transpired since this post ;)

Actually I will be living with friends in an on-campus appartment next school year. Chances are I'll be staying there over the summers as well, so it will become my new "permanent home" of sorts until I'm done with college and move on to a steady job.

It's gotten better since that first day I came out. It's not really a topic of discussion, sort of a neutral ground thing. I'm pretty content with where it's gone. I have friends to rely on, to fall back on, and everything inbetween. If worse comes to worse, I have that safety net.

Again though, thanks for the concern, I'll add you to my friends' list (hey, it's only fair!) in case you wanna catch up, so to speak, on my life.

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[cuedus]

Ya know... I didn't notice, until I looked at the SECOND post... that it was written in AUGUST!

By that time, it was too late, but... *lol*

*hugs* Thank you and I'm glad.

I am one of those people who, when I was a young fag, advocated for unconditional acceptance. But, then reality struck.

You see, I am not a dog person, right? I don't like dogs because they are so unconditional. They just love ya so, you know? I am way too suspicious of this. So, I am always a little shy of dogs.

I am a cat person. Cats let you know how they feel. They have a beautiful sense of entitlement and as far as they are concerned, people belong to them -- not the other way around. To me, this is honest and I can adapt myself to them and I like them and they like we. We form a balance

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[lazyfox]

Cats all the way. They know what they want, but they know how to tell you to get it. That's why I'm not a dog person either. Dogs simply bark and bark and bark, following you around until you get to the right spot, and then and ONLY then will you know what they want.

When we had cats, they were very descriptive with what they wanted, in their own way. A meow followed by a trot to the door, obviously, meant take me outside. A meow followed by a stare at you and then the food dish means "I'm hungry". I think cats know their owners as much as their owners know them.

I see your point. Very very valid.

And to answer your question, I'm a Computer Science major (read: Big effin' dork)

P.S. No problem ;)

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[slyfox172000]

that's not right....you're dad sucks big time.

[iluvfurs]

A couple things to keep in mind:
A) Being gay isn't something you can control, it is determined when you were born
B) It's not the end of the world being gay (I actually think of it as an honor, believe it or not).

The conservative mind set has it going that it's a choice, which will is completely ridculous. The fact that there are even gay people in the religious churches and that some churches are starting to accept it (as well as the move to make gay marriages legal) is a sign of people understanding or at least not giving a shit, about a simple thing called love.

At any rate, some key points I'm sure you brought up with pops , but thought I'd bring up anyway.

[lazyfox]

Oh I know, this post was (if it wasn't obvious) during a harsh time.

A) I fully stand by that belief too
B) I never said it was. I love it, and wouldn't trade it for any other orientation if I had the choice.

Oddly enough, my family is not at all religious, and to my Dad this was more of a personal mindset that he brought me up incorrectly and he was a bad father.

The situation, since this point in my journal, has gotten better and yet worse. Better in that it's not something he's (noticeably) upset about, but worse in that, well, if I had to be honest, I would say he was a bad father anyway. Not (obviously) for the gay thing, but for a multitude of other reasons which I won't go into. It's hard to put into words to tell him exactly what I think, but my entire family sees it and knows it.

Anyway, enough rambling from me, but thanks for your insight.

[iluvfurs]

No problem. I hope things will continue to go well with your family.