When being nice goes to far...

[ldybz3]

So is there such a thing as being too nice...those of you that know my father(which I think is everyone on here) knows that my dad can be nice to a fault always willing to help people, give of himself in anyway possible. I got this characteristic from my father and I usually am good at keeping people from taking advantage of me...Well here is my

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[aztecknight]

Not sure I have any good advice, but I love you. You have to do what you can live with it on all ends of it and it sounds like that will be hard no matter what you do.

* hug *

[dwer]

you have to set things straight with Adam. Unless the divorce decree says that you have to pay these things, you don't have to pay these things. When Capri and I got divorced, I paid for her health insurance for a year because that's what the decree required.

As far as the roommate goes, is she collecting unemployment? If so, she should be able to assist with rent, she should be able to get herself a pay-go phone. In addition, she may be eligible for medicare if she's ill without insurance.

Perhaps helping her to find some options will help to motivate her.

[ghita]

You need to take care of yourself first. If you have a deadline, then so do those who have been benefitting from your generosity. You should make clear that while you have been generous, it is not a commitment to support them indefinitely. You are not a bad person for telling someone they need to handle their own needs - you are an adult and you are giving them an opportunity to become self-sufficient adults once your generosity ends. If they complain that they have no one else to turn to, they are just trying to keep the free ride they have been getting. There are always social services they can use. We all pay for it, they should get our money's worth.