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[leaelyse]

Here is a question that came up in a recent conversation...I want to get your opinion.

Is phone sex a form of cheating on your partner?

Comments

[ericalorraine]

I don't know if you'd call it cheating, but it is definitely being dishonest/disloyal to your partner. If a person feels guilty afterwards and wouldn't want their partner finding out, then it should not have been done in the first place. If your partner does not care (which I think is doubtful) then by all means do your thing. But I'm extremely loyal. I feel bad about looking at another person with desire even though I know that's normal. and by using 'you' I don't mean you personally.

[slytherinblack]

I'd have to say that depends on both you and your partner and how you see it. If one or both partners views it as cheating than it should be avoided out of respect if nothing else. But if neither see it that way, then no problem.

[shadow_dancer1]

I think that would have to be up to you and your partner to determine. If it's not okay with either one of you, then it's probably not okay. Only the people in the relationship can decide on what the boundaries of the relationship are. It is definitely something that would need to be discussed, especially if one person is thinking about doing it. If that person is okay with it, it doesn't mean that their partner is going to be. Although there aren't really engaging in any physical activity...with each other...there is still an intimate connection that is taking place. The question that I would ask would be...what is the need of the phone sex to begin with? Is there something that is lacking in the current relationship that phone sex is needed? Perhaps that is the real issue that needs to be addressed. The phone sex could just be a surface situation that needs to be addressed.

or something.

[ceramufary]

Only if they don't know/have not previously said they're okay with it/have previously said they are NOT okay with it.

/polyamorous

[unknown_fetish]

That would depend. Ex: I can go online, have cyber sex via text only, and do it with some stranger. Now granted if I felt sexy or orgasmed or anything that might be different, but since I had no feelings during the cyber, I don't consider it cheating. If it was with someone I knew or if I felt anything, instead of just kind of laughing at their climax ("AAAAAGGGGGGHHHHHGOD!"hehe) I would say that THAT would be cheating. Can words and sounds really be substituted for arousal, foreplay, and penetration or is it only the emotions and states of mind that count?