Mom

[leatherwolf1970]

Moms been going downhill the past year or so. It's been a really frustrating year to say the least. I'm pretty much drained mentally anymore. Over the past summer I've shut out a lot of people from my life even. Just in the past week or so I've noticed her getting weaker even. I thought she would be able to make it until 2011 sometime. I'm starting

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[nipper_dawg]

i'm sorry.

my Mom is starting to get things "Organized" shall we say. Mom has slowed down somewhat physically but mentally is still sharp. i do worry about her, where whenever she sleeps in i get nervous. Mom is doing work to the house now so that "you do not have to do it later". We just made me co-owner of all the bank accounts (and my brother was informed of this, though i don't know if he knows what that truly means). SIR and i have talked about this too, to the point where HE wants to know hoe much it costs to run the house a year.

[leatherwolf1970]

I've been worrying about mom sleeping in the past six months or so. About a month ago she pretty much stopped arguing with me when it came to doing laundry and keeping doors locked etc. That was a definite sign to me. Moms always been one to argue that she can do what she damn well pleases. I took it as a sign of giving up. Just a couple of days ago she commented that she thought she heard someone outside when I wasn't home and that she was just going to let them take whatever they were going to. A year ago she would have gone outside and tried to fight them (yes at her age). About 4 years ago I finally took away her baseball bat that she kept next to her bed just in case. At her age they would have just taken it from her and used it on her. Everyone she knows has passed with the exception of a cousin of hers that lives in Seattle. They talk a few times a month. I've had POA and POD on the accounts for several years now so that will be one less loop to jump through when the time does come. I'm now at the point where I'm treating every

[nipper_dawg]

i take mom out more often. We do dinner twice a month as i finally found a place She is comfortable at. She still walks to the Dr's 2-3 blocks away, but can no longer walk to church. Stairs are tough but she does them. She no longer argues about Dr's and "i don't want to be a bother" going out. She has stopped saying "You don't have to live here don't let me keep you" (in a loving way) anymore. SIR is trying to move up here as HE understands Mom needs Us. The house would be in town. i am doing minor things She always wanted in the house.
She has outlived Her family. There are the kids, grand kids, and great grand kids. Mom having lived in town all her life, does have distant cousins she trips over and people she babysat and grew up with. i am going thorugh the old pics with Her before it is too late.

[leatherwolf1970]

I try to take her out and it's just nerve wracking. She can't make a decision about anything from what she may want to eat to the color of a pair of shoes. When I do try and take her out to eat she always says no "I never eat enough to make it worth going out", so it's next to impossible to get her out. We went through the photo albums before we left CA. She had tons of albums of which I didn't know half of the people and most of them she couldn't even remember. A lot of good that did though. About 9 months ago I came home from work to find all of the albums in the trash and several pictures torn up. She decided to go through them again. I lost quite a few pics of me and dad together etc. I basically have next to nothing left of my dad now other than memories. Dad was in the Navy in WWII and had a couple of large certificates framed and hung on the wall. When he passed and we were going through everything she tore them up right in front of me and threw them out without even asking me if I wanted them (I still highly resent that and

[nipper_dawg]

YOu MIGHT be able to get those back from Military Archives.

[leatherwolf1970]

I doubt it but it's worth a shot. I remember one was for crossing some line in the ocean, it was a really decorative one. I don't recall what the other one was off hand. I was barely 13 when he passed. He never really talked about his Navy days. I know when he got off the boat back in America (he was stationed in the Philippines as an aircraft mechanic) he changed into civies and threw away his uniform he didn't even want it. I do have a victory knife he brought back with him and a couple of pics that were supposedly taken from the bodies of dead jap pilots.

[noble_knave]

my thoughts are with you

[leatherwolf1970]

Thanks Justin, hugs

I Feel Your Pain

[oxjock]

I know Clinton wore that line out ... but in this case it actually is appropriate. I took care of my Mom for years, until I was at the end of my rope. Then she was persuaded to admit herself to a personal care home for both her sake and mine.

I hate to say that I was somewhat relieved when she died, but it's true. I'm extremely unhappy about it as well.

I am praying for you and your continued health and stamina during this trying time.

Oxjock