things i hope never to get....

[leavesturninyou]

i am actually updating this thing for real, even though i should really be sleeping right now. saw dead meadow tonight, they were so incredibly loud that i still feel high just from the intensity of the sound. go see them if you get a chance, but bring ear plugs

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[emptyhanded]

fair enough, Kevin. There comes a point when the closeness and love ends up being distracting from truly knowing someone. If I repeal labels and needs of security, then I am able to know the person fully, not just as what they are in relation to myself. Then my relationships with people become more full, and varied, and less about myself.

It's all just about letting go of presumptions about myself and what I 'need'.

[leavesturninyou]

nihlism is a lonely life.

[emptyhanded]

I was hardly advocating nihilism, you know that. I was advocating not being in a relationship for a long time.

[adottir]

I can understand that view. Sometimes I'm like that, but mostly because I start building the other person up to be a god and end up getting disappointed when I realize that they are just human. Deep connections don't last long enough.

[leavesturninyou]

see, what i really mean is that when i say "how are you", you answer honestly ("fucking shitty" is in fact an appropirate answer), and answer honestly to yourself as well.