How do you . . .

[leda_et_al]

Say there's a man who you've known for years and still don't really know

Comments

[bunnyblood2]

I guess I'll go with "actions speak louder than words" on this one.

Sometimes emails and comments just aren't enough to some people. You have to actually go out and do something for that person to make them feel like you really care.

Ask him if he wants to go to a bar some night. (not like a "date", just to vent and take some time off)

Maybe buy him a little gift that you know he will like. Possibly something he has and needs more of, or something he has mentioned he wanted.

Little things like that will go a long way......a lot further than words will. :)

[leda_et_al]

*Nod* thanks Dawn. I never really thought about it that way. I'll try some of those.

[redbubblebath]

Take him to Starbucks aand sit his ass down. Tell him everything you've ever wanted to tell him.
If it's just the two of you he'll listen because he came with you to Starbucks intentionally.
Then bring him back to your house and pop in the VHS of Oklahoma.
Make his sing all the words.

[leda_et_al]

LOL ^_^

I can't picture said person singing Oklahoma. But it's worth a shot. Everyone likes coffee. ^_^

Thanks lucious.

[mark_dey]

So, telling him is not the problem; the problem is him accepting your offer. Right? Well, there's not much you can do to change him. I think the only thing you can do is to make sure he's aware of the depth of your devotion and how you don't like to see him hurt. That way, if he wants to use your help, then you are there for him, and at least he won't feel totally alone and helpless. If he wants to do something else to deal with his hurt, then that's his choice. Basically, you can't make him like you, even though you care for him

[whoyeah]

I think I know of whom you're talking about.

And if I'm right, I'm actually really shocked that you feel this way about said person. Really shocked.

But.

Despite that, if you really DO feel this way about this person, then I agree that you should maybe tell them exactly how you feel. Exactly what you just wrote in this post. Maybe via email or something. Or why not a letter in the mail. I think they would like that if the person is the person I think it is.

Anyway...can you call me tonight? I kind of want to chat about a few things.

[leda_et_al]

thanks Mark. I can see that you can only help those who want it.

*hugs*
you're the best husband ever ^_~

[rikosis]

Honestly, I think if you just told him what you just wrote he would understand. Also as Dawn said actions do speak louder than words. But it could also be that perhaps this person does understand how much you care when he gets hurt but maybe he just is one of those people who doesnt take in compliments or help very well sometimes guilt can kill a person.

If you want I can ninja into his home and waylay him totally and drag him to your house so you can talk to him!!

I got yo back homez!

[leda_et_al]

Thanks Bryan, I'll try that.

^_^ good to know ^_~

[drazniich]

IDK. Small oragami cranes in a crown royal bottle. Or, of course, crown royal in a crown royal bottle. Both happen...

Seriously, its always difficult. Sometimes, its not that they don't appriciate it, or don't love you back. Some people are just unhelpable with some things, like me with being an emo brat or people who isolate themselves when they feel alone. Its just how people are. In most cases, a demonstation might not even be needed, but if so, training nine hundred and ninety nine small minks to tapdance fits any situation. ANY.

[leda_et_al]

O_O Now I have a project. To fill a crown royal bottle with mini cranes. This is my goal.

Thanks Leo. You're teh best.