So i'm still a push over.

[legato86]

I've not learnt any lessons, i'm still just as much as a push over as I've always been.

I'd been taking this girl I went to high school out on a few dates recently, a meal, a trip the to the cinema, an evening when I cooked and we watched tv at mine, a day out in the city etc, with the first, she gave me a peck on the cheek, by the last, she was

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[jonjonxd]

I wouldn't say you let yourself be led along. Honestly, you can't emotionally invest so much so quickly into someone, then shit like this happens.

Was the sex good at least? Things typically change after you have sex, that prob stirred her up a bit and made her re-evaluate the situation.

Still man, don't let it get to you. You seem like a cool guy, you just can't emotionally invest so much into these women unless they prove to you that they want to do the same.

[legato86]

The sex was pretty good yeah, I'd not had any in 6 months though!

My problem is my view on life, the universe and everything.

I started typing a reply, but its MAHOOSIVE. I'll make a new journal entry.

I know you guys talk sense, and I love that you take the time to talk to me, and repeatedly tell me how it is, its comforting.

[jonjonxd]

Sounds like you're in the same boat as me. I haven't had sex since Lauren so lol.

I can understand that being an issue, it is for me too, I just try to keep a logical and "real" mindset about it. Understanding that not everyone has the same views as you is key. I typically operate under normal social norms when pursuing women, because I feel like my capability for love and compassion would (and has) overwhelm women, so I try to ease into that...even though it bothers the shit out of me to.

It's all about making them feel comfortable and enjoying spending time with you and talking to you :). After that you just ease them into how you are as a person, and they'll normally take to it :). Can't just rush in going full force, it overwhelms people.

[artonic]

I agree with Jon. I think it's the same for both guys and girls. Getting too emotionally invested before you're sure how the othe person honestly feels about you is just setting yourself up to get hurt. I've had a guy who I only met once briefly and spoke to via text messaging and such for a couple days suddenly tell me he was in love with me and was dead set on having me as his girlfriend. And whether I had the potential or not to return the feelings, it would never happen after that because it scared me that he was so attached so quickly

[jonjonxd]

You never told me about this guy!

[artonic]

I didn't? It wasn't that big of a deal. It was just this guy (younger than me), who is a friend of a friend and he found me via Myspace or whatever after I had seen him in passing for literally a couple minutes where we didn't say a word to each other.

Anyway, he found me and messaged me on an interest I have (Phoenix Wright) and he was nice so we started texting. A couple days later, he told me he was in love with me. Asked me out, I said no. Weeks later, asked again, I said no. Second time means it just won't happen. But to this day, he still says he has deep feelings for me (granted I have seen him more since then) and he can't love anyone because I'm "the one" and whatnot.

But everyone has different feelings on true love and soulmates and stuff (I feel like it was love at first sight with Jason, but even then neither of us said it until after a month into us dating), so who am I to disregard his feelings as false? I just can't return them.

(Sorry to put this on your entry, Adam. u.u I know it's completely irrelevant lol.)<3

[jonjonxd]

when was this btw? was this during our little thing?

[legato86]

Like I said to Jon, I'll make a new post shortly about why I can't help myself from diving at someone.

It's good to hear from you both aswell :), thank you both so much for your friendship. I hope your ticker is doing okay! x

[artonic]

Haha it's alright. I got it off. Results came back with several abnormalities though.