Wow

[lemadia]

My goodness its been forever since I last updated this thing. I wonder if any of you even visit this site anymore. Ah well, this post is mostly for my own benifit anyway.  I am having such a fight with one of my friends. I love her dearly but, my goodness I dont think we can stand one another right now. I think I may know her side of it

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[zarose]

FIrst things first, Yes I do still read this... I check my friendsw page at least once if not more per day. second my last name is spelt Barberis -_^ finaly, Veniting/ranting is good. And sometimes to help people you have to hurt them. If this friend just bottles up her feelings then they will festerf into somehting uncontrolible. Sometimes it's good to be a lance to drain that "emotional puss", tur it hurts both of you. But if you'ra as close as I think you are, the wound will heal. *huggles* Hope that helps some, take it easy k?

Aloha

[lemadia]

Yeah, I understand your view point. I think you may be right in the eventuality of the problem being "lanced" inorder to heal, but for now, I think the problems are actually more or less like a blister and that the blister will heal best if left alone untill the skin is thin enough that the thing busts open on its own. Kinda agrusome way of putting it but, it definatly works as a metiphore. thanks for the advice.
love,
Laurie

[demon_rhynn]

This may sound crazy, but... there was a time when I didnt want to talk to anyone. At all. My best friend had just betrayed my trust, and all my other friends were her friends too but didnt want to get between us so they stayed away... Anywho, there was a lot going on in my head, and I needed to get it out. So I bought myself one of those pocket notebooks, filled it full of as much crap as I could think of, and then burned it a page at a time. Of course, I also got my hide tanned for playing with matches, but that's beside the point.

Um... Laurie, the thing about making glass beads is you need a kiln... and molten glass is something I'm not sure is safe to have around Alex until he's old enough to understand that coming anywhere near your work will get his arse bruised... er... hmm. I had something else I was going to say, but Donovan just walked in front of me and I was distracted.

Love you, bye!

Aloha

[lemadia]

I think I sort of understand what you are saying. That I should just let her work it out in her own way and deal with things my own way too? Yeah, I figured about as much. Though I wasnt thinking the identiy of my 'friend' wouldnt be quite that obvious, but I guess you cant hide much when your trying to write about details and only leaving so much out. *shakes head* Try not to get me into trouble before she finds it on her own okay?
love,
Laurie

=^_^=

[sabreth001]

I'm sorry that your friend and you are having a tiff, but sometimes these tiff's are necessary. They put relationships to the test, and if you two really do care about one another (and I know you both do) then things will eventually work out. My only two cents is one of my mantra's that I live by...and when I ignore it bad things always happened to me: "Time will always tell." To everyone that means something different, to me it means that if I give a problem enough time and care it will always work out the way it was meant to work out.

Hairy Wookiee

Aloha

[lemadia]

Thank you for the advice. I do appreciate it. Sabreth, I must say that though this is some thing of a wise statment, and for you it seems it is one you need to heed. However, things do not always work out "as they were ment to work out". And this is some thing of a nonsesical statment too because it is obvious that if you give a problem time and attention some thing is bound to happen because of what ever attention you gave your problem. Becareful with that kind of thinking is all I am saying. It wraps around its self and can lead to majior deception with out you knowing how you were decived.

Re: Aloha

[sabreth001]

All valid points. This is one of the reasons why you have always had my respect, Lemadia. Your rational and clear insightfullness has always been something I admire in you, and has (I am sure) served you well in the past.

Like I said, to everyone it means something different. For me it means "Be patient and tread lightly". It is all a matter of interperetation, and only the individual knows how they interperet things. I only sincerely hope that no matter what anyone says, that you keep your rationality about you and do what you think is best.

Sabreth

Re: Aloha

[sabreth001]

Thank you sabreth for the compliment. I think you may be surprised to know that the insigthfulness comes from God. I know it sound clique to many but I have found it to be absolutly the truth. When I ignore God or dont pay enough attention the insight I do get dwindles. Though I personally dont believe I have much insight at all, I still notice a huge difference and so dose every one else. I hope I didnt insult you by saying that you could be decived by some thing that has clearly helped you in your life. I was only concerned for you. I appologize if your feelings were hurt.
sincerely,
Lemadia