Comments | leo9: Great weekend

leo9

Great weekend

Mar 10, 2014 19:50

I had a pretty good weekend. Friday night was a little poignant, as it was the last night of Bobby D's at it's location off El Toro Rd. and Raymond. I know that Bob has proposals out for at least two different possible locations, both fairly close, so that's good. The downside is that I don't have a karaoke bar I want to go to for a while ( Read more... )

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phaephae March 12 2014, 10:49:00 UTC

Kinda bummed I didn't make it to the Bobby D's send-off now : \ Sounds like it was awesome.

Really glad to hear that things are going well with you and this Dave dude. : ) Sounds like you guys are having a lot of fun and it sounds like he is definitely showing all the right signs that he likes you. I think it's reasonable not to want to get back into a relationship, but I would just make sure that you keep him up to date on where you're doing so he doesn't feel rejected or what-not. Personally, I think it makes me like a chick even more if she tells me "I LIKE YOU, BUT LET ME GET COMFORTABLE WITH IT, HOMIE" (to paraphrase. I've never had a g/f call me "HOMIE" unfortunately.)

But yeah, definitely time for some positivity! Yay romance. ; D

leo9 March 13 2014, 15:29:47 UTC

He and I both just got out of relationships in December.. though mine was longer than his. We have talked about it some, but I am honestly letting him make the declarations and whatnot.

I have been reading articles written by men about relationships, and one guy wrote that in his opinion, it's better to wait til the guy makes moves toward relationship status change and saying "I love you" and all that, first. The reason he gave is if the girl does those things first they feel obligated to respond in kind, where if he does it first it will be because he knows it's important to the girl and is making the move because he wants her to know.

I think I am paraphrasing this badly.

http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/girl-says-i-love-you-first/

phaephae March 14 2014, 08:29:31 UTC

Yeah. Having been in a relationship where I felt obligated to say "I love you" back, and having it snowball into a big, bad thing... I would *definitely* go along with any "let the dude say it first" stuff.

I'm not a huge fan of gender-based romance rules.. but there is always a kernel of truth in them. I honestly believe that no matter how much doubt you may feel and how hard it is for you to make up your mind, I think it's 10x harder for dudes. So if he DOES make the decision to go with his gut and say he loves you at some point, it's probably FOR REAL.

leo9 March 14 2014, 16:10:29 UTC

Yeah, the whole gender based anything is weird. But I suppose that's part of how we function as humans.. we categorize and pass judgements so our brains don't explode. There are "rules" and of course there are exceptions to those "rules ( ... )

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