that straight girl

[nightfall18]

I have a case of "this supposed straight girl might like me" going on, what to do?

Mixed signals. Friend says "she likes you" but she doesn't know that for sure. What to do??

Comments

[scatterbeetle]

Leave it alone. If she was into you she'd tell you herself.

[citizenjess]

Ask her yourself! (Sry, this may go against scatterbeetle's probably legit. advice, but um, you know, why pussy-foot around?)

[theacidqueen]

if she knows you're not straight and she thinks you know her as straight, then i would think if she likes you she'd have to tell you so. otherwise why would she expect you to, say, make a move if you're under the impression she's straight? ya know? maybe your friend who says she likes you ought to do a little detective work and find out for sure. it's possible that she does like you but a) isn't sure what to do about it, or b) is just plain shy like a lot of people are when they like someone. if i were in this situation, i think i'd ask that third friend for a little assistance, because making a move on a straight lady is often fruitless. i hold hands, share beds, snuggle on couches, and slow dance with my straight lady friends, and as far as i understand it's all purely platonic. it's possible this person who might like you is questioning her own sexuality or something, but it sounds like some covert research would help you figure this out.

[nightfall18]

Good thoughts thank you!!

[elialshadowpine]

I'd ask her directly. There are many different ways that someone can mean "like". If you ask her, you'll at least have an answer to work from.

[nightfall18]

Maybe I'll write her some poetry :) lol

[nosemovie]

It is CERTAINLY possible that a "straight" friend is thinking of joining the team. My wife and I left "straight" for eachother. It does happen.

So, the road there can be rocky, and something that you don't step onto lightly. Take her to dinner, talk, enjoy her company (if you even do... you don't really say if you LIKE her back?? Do you??) and if it feels like something worth pursuing, just say "Would you like to make this a habit?" And see what she says :)

Good luck.

[nightfall18]

I like her yes! A lot. She's on my mind all day.

We've been to dinner a few times now and afterwards I'll tell her I had a nice time and she'll say the same. We're going out this Friday and then we already have plans to go to the movies together (her idea) soon.

My friend thinks she likes me because she said I made it clear one night that I liked the straight girl, and since the straight girl is now hanging out with me all the time (and sometimes makes strange comments) she probably likes me in some capacity. But who knows for sure?

[nosemovie]

Well, that sounds promising!

It took me AGES to tell T I was in love with her. We'd been good friends for several years, so I'm not the best one to say GO FOR IT! hahaha... unless you're willing to ride it out several years that is. ;)

But I had no idea T liked girls, or would consider that. I still consider her fairly "bi" and I have no problem with that. Maybe it's the same for your friend. She dates guys, likes guys, but likes girls too? More power to her.

There was this line in the movie "We Bought a Zoo" where the guy says you only need like 20 seconds of brave to change your whole life. I seriously subscribe to that theory. I just got up as much "balls" as I could and told her I had a crush on her. She then tells me (after I've gone all this time thinking she's into guys) she's had a crush on me for a year! So yeah... it can happen.

[nightfall18]

Aww such a sweet story!!