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Jul 30, 2013 17:29

The straight girl I like(d) is straight, according to my friend that went undercover to find out. My heart hurts. Another friend think she's not out yet but I have no evidence of that. Can't live my life on maybes and what-ifs ( Read more... )

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sleepyjane July 31 2013, 03:17:46 UTC

how did your friend go undercover?

nightfall18 July 31 2013, 03:24:22 UTC

My friend and the straight girl are good friends, so they were texting. My undercover friend just said something like "I think nightfall18 might like you because of x,y,z" just to see what the straight girl would think about that. She thinks I'm a great person but she is totally straight.

zevhonith July 31 2013, 19:59:32 UTC

So, from your friends perspective, you're suddenly and without explanation completely ditching her?

venatorrooc July 31 2013, 20:15:14 UTC

This. Why do you feel the need to now ignore her, OP? That just seems odd, surely you can still be friends or something.

ameliorate August 1 2013, 20:23:16 UTC

On the one hand it seems harsh to just ditch someone that thought you were friends because they don't have feelings for you, on the other hand if Nightfall18 really liked her she might need time to recover before being friends.

magic_general August 1 2013, 20:57:14 UTC

There's no way to know for sure, but I have a feeling this woman knew nightfall liked her and was just keeping her around because it felt good. Though I think toning down the communication and hanging out would be best. Not outright ignoring her, but just not initiating contact and being polite when the other woman does text or call.

mothwing August 2 2013, 09:22:30 UTC

To be blunt, all of this seems incredibly juvenile. Asking friends to ask friends whether they like you or not instead of asking her out, then cutting off all contact without word to anyone - you really, really need to work on your communication skills. It's never too late to learn.

nightfall18 August 5 2013, 02:53:55 UTC

Yeah, no. My friend just shared her perspective w/ the girl to see what she was thought of me liking her. And she hasn't contacted me since. My friend helped me.

iatrogenicmyth August 2 2013, 22:02:00 UTC

Why couldn't you just say to her: look, I have a crush on you and I've been getting some flirtatious vibes from you, too ... are you actually interested in me in that way? (and since she's "straight," maybe follow up with: is it something you ever thought about doing?)

secret_gyoza August 3 2013, 12:11:25 UTC

sgreed, this is probably the best way to deal with the situation.

nightfall18 August 5 2013, 02:52:55 UTC

Not happening.