Need Advice.

[somniumdraconae]

I'll try to keep this short

Comments

[elialshadowpine]

I think you're not as likely to get as much advice here, since the community is, while accepting of bisexual/pansexual folk, the focus usually is advice regarding other women.

If you feel like you want to talk to this guy, by all means. You don't need anyone's permission. :) You don't need to say anything more than, "Hey, I had a really great time with you last night {or whenever}, and I'd like to chat with you about it."

This is, presuming, you are interested in this guy as a friend or something more. If you're mostly wanting to talk to him to work out issues with being attracted while being more interested in women -- I wouldn't contact him in that case, but I would work it out with friends. (I can't really tell from your post what you're looking for from this guy, so I'm covering both possibilities.)

[magic_general]

It doesn't sound like you've known this guy very long or very well. Just get to know him and see where things go, you don't have to jump into anything or overanalyze the situation.

[shorti_08]

You don't have to over-analyze your feelings. Just do whatever you're comfortable with and don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

[patricia_writes]

I agree with what everyone else said. In terms of whether it's necessary to come out to him, I would say play it by ear, but it might be useful information for him in case things progress and then you change your mind. It might be good for him to have that information so he could understand better.

I got my PhD in psychology at UCDavis in 1996, so I can tell you, it's a great place to study and live! Good luck and PM me any time!!

[somniumdraconae]

"so, I am sometimes attracted to men, but I'm not sure if I'm attracted to you. just wanted to clarify!"

It does sound really awkward when you put it like that!