Utterly shocked and extremely disappointed

[lesliejackson]

So, One of my "friends", Mia, invited me to be in her wedding even before she was offically engaged. I was honored, if a bit reluctant to accept so early, but whatever. After she got engaged, she formally asked me to be in her wedding, then I started getting all these emails about dress color, and what size shoe I wear. We went to try on dres

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[jester2903]

might not help much but, id tell her to piss of, have a nice life and then try not to worry about it. flaky people dont deserve to be addressed by cool, honest people like you.

[strandist]

Well, I can see four possible scenarios.
1) She intentionally didn't invite you for whatever reason.
1a) You ask and she begrudgingly invites you, you feel bad, but go anyway and have fun with your other friends there.
1b) You don't ask and your friendship is never the same again.

2) You were somehow left off the list accidentally (hey, I didn't get an invitation to my own brother's wedding).
2a) You ask and she happily includes you, and makes sure your place setting is in a prime location to make up for it.
2b) You don't ask and she always regrets you not being there.

Either way you should just talk to her about something else and get a feel for the vibe she's giving off. Perhaps mention it nonchalantly or deftly steer the conversation in that direction by asking how the planning is going.

[ddask137]

Yeah, that's pretty rude... I remember when she asked you not to be a bridesmaid anymore. My suggestion- Go on with life. She's obviously not a good friend if she would pull a stunt like this, so she's not worth your time or energy to even think about.