So it's official . . .

[less_like_math]

This summer will be my last in Boston. I'm packing up my things at the end of August and finally moving to NY. And while I'll be doing exactly what I want to do, I sat across from my best friend last night and cried into my sandwich like a sissy. I had been so busy making plans with friends who will be there and scouting jobs/apartments/quick money

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[suzybuzz]

amen on that. it's tough- wait, is he going to be in the same city?

[suzybuzz]

It's the kind of thing that could turn out badly. One of us could meet someone else or our conversations could fall flat as with friends who've grown apart. There are a lot of things that can happen when you aren't around. If that isn't a true test of a relationship, I don't know what is.

I'm struggling with similar issues, Lisa. At least you two have a solid foundation. With whom are you living in NYC?

[less_like_math]

I don't know where I'll be living, but I'm about to give up my apartment as a necessary kick in the ass to actually do this. If I'm unable to find a job promptly in Sept, I'm perfectly OK with living at home and commuting (further adding to my savings) while I look for something that makes sense.

Eric's staying in Boston because he just found a job that is a promotion for him, so it is kind of illogical for him to think about moving . . . yet. I predict that with a lot of his friends relocating (especially me and Sharon), he'll be inspired to think seriously about it. It's just a timing thing. He came close to taking a job in Manhattan in March, but at the last minute it fell through. Ironically, that's what set the wheels in motion for me.

On a side note, I'm thinking about copying you and looking for work in a university so I can do my Master's. When do you finish your program? Are you considering NY, or are you more in Eric's shoes?

[suzybuzz]

hi. so you guys have an understanding about it? i did LDRs all through college, and i just can't wrap my head around doing one again at age 30. but it depends on a lot of stuff. i think LDRS can work if you have a set time to be together again in the same town, not dragging endlessly from year to year.

i will always have a love/hate relationship with nyc. but generally i just want people to be happy where they are, and not always wish they were someplace else. good for you for making it happen!

sure, most universities give employees free tuition; are you looking at Psych programs?

[less_like_math]

Not having a set time is frustrating, believe me. We disagree on that. . . I wish he'd start thinking about the next thing, and he's interested in putting all his energy on what he's doing now. I guess I can see his side of it. The bright side is that he intends to move there, but for me, it's agonizing that it's so open-ended.

Thanks for the nice thoughts...I'm sure I'll be happy there. I've been waiting to move so long, I risk stagnation in Boston. And it's not good to start resenting the city that is truly your home. . .When that happens, you know you have to try something else and possibly revisit later.

I'm going to look at Psych programs and Writing & Publishing. Both directions seem like such wonderful possibilities that I'm not sure which way to go. . . but I think that if I can take a class or two for free it'll help me make up my mind without going further into debt. (Psych keeps coming up, though, so I think it might be the answer. Plus, combining writing with a Psych career is possible, but not the other way around.)

[labellabonaroba]

Well put, my friend. Well put.

[less_like_math]

Hey, thanks!

Two very good things about this post:

[whatmakeshim]

1. "bus-bar-brunch-bar-brunch-bus Brooklyn weekends."
2. "God knows he's as old as the hills"

Good Luck!

Re: Two very good things about this post:

[less_like_math]

Thanks, I'll probably need luck with this devil-may-care approach. haha

[billetdoux]

That was great, and good luck. New York is awesome. I love it here when I'm here (did that make sense?) And Wendy's going too, right? You guys will make a good dynamic duo.

[less_like_math]

Yes we will! I have quite the friend crush on her. haha. I actually had a chance to visit their new place already. She and Josh moved on Saturday, after the Pill. I was so glad to send her off on a happy-and-dancing note.

How do you know them?

[billetdoux]

I've known josh for 8, 9 years, so I met Wendy when they first started dating. We'd all always go to the model. Wendy goes out dancing, too, and I go out dancing, and we make good dance buddies. I'm sad to see them move, but it was nice to see them one last time.

She should get an LJ!