Sorry it wasn't sooner (<--a hint about my response!)
anonymous
June 24 2005, 05:10:13 UTC
I would definitely make the person think about what they did. This is for a very simple reason, an apollogies intent is to be sorry for the action, and then most importantly to try not to do that again. Therefore, if the individual doesn't know what they did that made you mad, then obviously they won't be able to correct the problem in the future.
Re: Sorry it wasn't sooner (<--a hint about my response!)lexipants1June 26 2005, 20:18:09 UTC
thanks for the response. it means a lot. and that's what i thought too- see if they don't know what they did- they're more likely to do it again and piss me off somemore.... so yeah. thanks ~alexis
make em suffer!
anonymous
June 24 2005, 05:46:14 UTC
make them think about it darn it! i mean if they were sly enough to do whatever it is they did, i think they're way capable of thinking it through. aw shucks, watch their facial expressions while they think too. It adds to the fun. -Wynn ps- I GRADUATED!!! eek!
Re: make em suffer!lexipants1June 26 2005, 20:19:43 UTC
hahaha i'm gunna miss you OH so mucho!!! Warrior camp kicked total butt and i'll think about you next year when we're on the bus to go set up!
i love the whole "facial expression" too because i was kinda talking to this person on the phone before i posted this so it made me want to confront them face to face. thanks~alexis
well... this is from Joel... if a guy has done something wrong he will most likely not realize what he did though he still knows he did something so if this is the case I believe you should talk to him about it and work through the issue so he understands that what he did was wrong and then accept the apology because then he is aware of the infraction... if this is a girl then I would say make them think about it for awhile and if they still do not know what they did wrong then go through the same steps as the one for the guy...
P.S. I really wanted to go to your beach thing but casey wasn't going and I couldn't get ahold of you to get a ride down there so I couldn't go.. sorry. we will have to make another date to do it again.. love ya.. hope this inpute helped..
HAHAHA . LMAO. i love the different scenarios for whether it's a girl or a guy. only you would think of that joel. ONLY you... ha. anywho. it's aiight that you missed the partay- i'll probably have some sorta shin-ding for like the end of summer/ beginning of school thang..probably after school starts though because it's more likely for me to hand out invites and get people to actually come. ha. luv ya- *in the not so sick, i like you as only a friend so keep your hands to yourself and don't even think of hitting on me because i have a boyfriend kinda way*
If someone says sorry and doesn't know what they did wrong, in most cases, they didnt mean to cause harm. However, if by "make them think about what they did, and then accept it" you mean *not tell them what they did and make them guess what they did* then that is not acceptable either. If you tell the person, calmly, what they did wrong, then let them "think about it" then they apologize, THEN it is good.
So basically...
1>Chances are they didnt mean to hurt you 2>Make it YOUR responsibility to make sure they know what they did wrong (and dont make a big deal out of it, just tell them) 3>Accept their apology after they have "thought" about what they did (for however long they need to "think" about it for you to believe they mean it)
4>THEN-----------FORGIVE AND FORGET
Cool?
Alright, best of luck, dont lose a friendship over whatever it is, it probably (*taking a risk here assuming your problems*) isn't going to matter in five years.
Re: Well........lexipants1June 26 2005, 20:28:54 UTC
hey sweets. it always means a lot when you comment on my LJ because i know you hardly have time to anymore with all your college prep stuff to do. so i don't mean to bother you with all my problems.... anyways.
thanks for the comment. but if someone special in your life did something that practically killed your love for them, they didn't realize it, and they said they're sorry for "whatever they've done".... you really think you'd be able to forgive and forget about that?
hmm... easier said than done for me. i've been tested, but that person doesn't even realize i'm still frustrated with them... they have already forgot about it. i dont even think they realize what an impact it had on me. but i'm too afraid to confront them so i'm going to keep my mouth shut and pretend like nothing ever happened. ~alexis, the perfectly happy girl
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-Wynn
ps- I GRADUATED!!! eek!
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i love the whole "facial expression" too because i was kinda talking to this person on the phone before i posted this so it made me want to confront them face to face. thanks~alexis
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if a guy has done something wrong he will most likely not realize what he did though he still knows he did something so if this is the case I believe you should talk to him about it and work through the issue so he understands that what he did was wrong and then accept the apology because then he is aware of the infraction... if this is a girl then I would say make them think about it for awhile and if they still do not know what they did wrong then go through the same steps as the one for the guy...
P.S. I really wanted to go to your beach thing but casey wasn't going and I couldn't get ahold of you to get a ride down there so I couldn't go.. sorry. we will have to make another date to do it again.. love ya.. hope this inpute helped..
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bye~alexis
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here is the Boyfriend's opinion...
If someone says sorry and doesn't know what they did wrong, in most cases, they didnt mean to cause harm. However, if by "make them think about what they did, and then accept it" you mean *not tell them what they did and make them guess what they did* then that is not acceptable either. If you tell the person, calmly, what they did wrong, then let them "think about it" then they apologize, THEN it is good.
So basically...
1>Chances are they didnt mean to hurt you
2>Make it YOUR responsibility to make sure they know what they did wrong (and dont make a big deal out of it, just tell them)
3>Accept their apology after they have "thought" about what they did (for however long they need to "think" about it for you to believe they mean it)
4>THEN-----------FORGIVE AND FORGET
Cool?
Alright, best of luck, dont lose a friendship over whatever it is, it probably (*taking a risk here assuming your problems*) isn't going to matter in five years.
I will tty soon
Lots of Olive Juice
ByeDerek
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thanks for the comment. but if someone special in your life did something that practically killed your love for them, they didn't realize it, and they said they're sorry for "whatever they've done".... you really think you'd be able to forgive and forget about that?
hmm... easier said than done for me. i've been tested, but that person doesn't even realize i'm still frustrated with them... they have already forgot about it. i dont even think they realize what an impact it had on me. but i'm too afraid to confront them so i'm going to keep my mouth shut and pretend like nothing ever happened. ~alexis, the perfectly happy girl
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