Isolation: Part 2

[liber_ovate]

(Please be forewarned, I will be posting this disclaimer paragraph at the top of all of my posts until I'm certain I won't be "attacked" for trying to express myself)

I know there are some who might read this and think this is the wrong forum for posting this, but I need advice from outside of myself and I can't call some one. If you don't want to

Comments

[liber_ovate]

Thanks for the encouragement. I'm more scared of physical reactions or violent verbal actions than anything.

The reason I use LJ is because I want a place to express myself where I feel safe. :)

[sturdy_soapbox]

Sorry I wasn't more sensitive to your situation at the party. We should make a habit of discussing our feelings before we go out, so that I know how you feel. I was trying to deal with my own social discomforts and thought that you had yours under control considering it was work related and most people there know about you or, at least, suspect something. I saw and heard how your refusal to sit next to J affected him. His wife comforted him by saying, "It's okay." It's easy to forget that everyone has insecurities and it's impossible to know what will trigger what kind of reaction. Going by outward appearances, he likely thought that you were being racist. I know that you're NOT, but he had no way of knowing. I just don't want to see you so caught up in your own fears to forget about others' sensitivities...Doing so creates social confusion and intense situations.