Pickiness or Patience? God help me to know the difference…
The weekend I was back in Pickerington, I had three conversations with three different people about this topic. It really got me thinking and I figured it would follow yesterday’s entry pretty well.
A couple of the guys in crusade are in engaged. Tucker said it is has almost become an unspoken law in the guys house that most will be engaged before/right after they graduate. They do not plan it that way, but that is, by God’s Grace, the way it normally happens. The guys are just a few years older than me, which really got me thinking:
Where do you see yourself in 2008 (or insert the year you graduate from college)?
Do you see yourself engaged or at least seriously dating someone?
What about when you come back to camps for you five year reunion?
Will you be bringing a spouse with you?
How do you see yourself earning the money in your wallet?
These are real questions and the answers will be revealed in only a few short years.
I do see myself at least dating someone seriously at the end of my college career. Which leads to…who?
I have not met anyone at Dayton yet. I take that back; I have met A LOT of young women at Dayton, but no one I would want to pursue a relationship with. So the question becomes, is it me? Am I being too picky? Or am I just being patient. I seriously have no idea at this point. I know the qualities I am looking for and I have not yet met anyone who meets them. Is that all I am doing? Creating a checklist and as soon as I find something missing I turn away…
Maybe, in a way, this is what I am doing. I am looking for someone who loves God, is selfless & caring & compassionate, is able to laugh and have a great time, is able to be serious when necessary, is able to have an intelligent conversation, and is someone who leads rather than following the crowd. She also needs to be someone who can put up with me and my political self and who, at least, shares some of the same core beliefs. ;)
I have standards. I know this…I do not believe having standards is a bad thing. I have dated others in the past. I know what works and what does not. I have learned a lot about myself. It is wise not to forget the lessons of the past. At the same time, I do need to be careful not to miss something grand standing right in front of me and need to take it one day at a time.
I need to be aware of certain things that have/have not worked in the past, but I also need to live life one day at a time and trust in God. We try to plan every second of every day of our lives, when we need to just hand our lives over to God and allow Him to map them out for us. We have no idea what route is not under construction, or which road is covered in ice. If we try to create a trip-tic, we will probably put 1,000,000 miles on our lives and will never reach our final destination.
That is what it means to give your life to Christ. It is no longer something you have any control over. You have to give every decision, every choice, and every option over to God and allow Him to rule your life. This is the only to maximize greatness. This is the only way to be eternally happy.
So that is what I am going to do. I am aware that I do have certain standards, but God knows better than I do when it comes to how I will be eternally happy. I am going to continue to live one day at a time with a smile from ear to ear. Why you ask? Because Jesus loves me…and I think I can’t….but I know He CAN.
So even if you are having a bad day, smile! Jesus loves you and is counting on you to show is light to the world! If not you, then who? If not now, then when?
A couple of the guys in crusade are in engaged. Tucker said it is has almost become an unspoken law in the guys house that most will be engaged before/right after they graduate. They do not plan it that way, but that is, by God’s Grace, the way it normally happens. The guys are just a few years older than me, which really got me thinking:
Where do you see yourself in 2008 (or insert the year you graduate from college)?
Do you see yourself engaged or at least seriously dating someone?
What about when you come back to camps for you five year reunion?
Will you be bringing a spouse with you?
How do you see yourself earning the money in your wallet?
These are real questions and the answers will be revealed in only a few short years.
I do see myself at least dating someone seriously at the end of my college career. Which leads to…who?
I have not met anyone at Dayton yet. I take that back; I have met A LOT of young women at Dayton, but no one I would want to pursue a relationship with. So the question becomes, is it me? Am I being too picky? Or am I just being patient. I seriously have no idea at this point. I know the qualities I am looking for and I have not yet met anyone who meets them. Is that all I am doing? Creating a checklist and as soon as I find something missing I turn away…
Maybe, in a way, this is what I am doing. I am looking for someone who loves God, is selfless & caring & compassionate, is able to laugh and have a great time, is able to be serious when necessary, is able to have an intelligent conversation, and is someone who leads rather than following the crowd. She also needs to be someone who can put up with me and my political self and who, at least, shares some of the same core beliefs. ;)
I have standards. I know this…I do not believe having standards is a bad thing. I have dated others in the past. I know what works and what does not. I have learned a lot about myself. It is wise not to forget the lessons of the past. At the same time, I do need to be careful not to miss something grand standing right in front of me and need to take it one day at a time.
I need to be aware of certain things that have/have not worked in the past, but I also need to live life one day at a time and trust in God. We try to plan every second of every day of our lives, when we need to just hand our lives over to God and allow Him to map them out for us. We have no idea what route is not under construction, or which road is covered in ice. If we try to create a trip-tic, we will probably put 1,000,000 miles on our lives and will never reach our final destination.
That is what it means to give your life to Christ. It is no longer something you have any control over. You have to give every decision, every choice, and every option over to God and allow Him to rule your life. This is the only to maximize greatness. This is the only way to be eternally happy.
So that is what I am going to do. I am aware that I do have certain standards, but God knows better than I do when it comes to how I will be eternally happy. I am going to continue to live one day at a time with a smile from ear to ear. Why you ask? Because Jesus loves me…and I think I can’t….but I know He CAN.
So even if you are having a bad day, smile! Jesus loves you and is counting on you to show is light to the world! If not you, then who? If not now, then when?