Comments | life_of_secrecy: A question

life_of_secrecy

A question

Aug 23, 2006 11:19

Now that I'm out of the closet to a few people, how do I go about finding a boyfriend?

Seriously. I have no idea how to even begin to try and find one.

And don't say "clubbing." I'm not that big into clubbing.

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darkknight0618 August 23 2006, 16:08:11 UTC

Congrats on step further into you life.

What do you like to do for fun?

Are there any gay community hang outs?

There's always Hotornot.com , Gay.com , etc.

life_of_secrecy August 23 2006, 17:21:22 UTC

For fun I like to play video games, hang out with friends, watch TV, write, draw, etc. I also love walking around town at night and just talking about random stuff.

And I don't know of any gay hang outs in my area, but I assume there are probably some in the area where I go to college.

And I'm a bit wary about finding guys online. But right now that seems to be my best option.

darkknight0618 August 24 2006, 14:39:56 UTC

I'm very certain that there's place at the college.

life_of_secrecy August 24 2006, 14:48:16 UTC

The biggest problem is that I go to a small, conservative Christian college. I'm just down the road from U of M and EMU, but I don't go to those campuses very often.

super_tonic August 23 2006, 17:44:27 UTC

This is just my opinion, but the best answer isn't to go about with the mentality of "HOW DO I FIND SOMEONE?!" Just let it happen and you're more likely to stumble across someone while doing something you enjoy.

I say all that because really, I hate clubbing and the gay "scene," if you will - and I've met all of my boyfriends through things that I do like orchestral programs, ballet class, school, etc.

life_of_secrecy August 23 2006, 17:54:25 UTC

Good suggestion. If only the school I went to wasn't a conservative Christian school that teaches homosexuality is morally wrong.

But yes, letting things happen naturally seems like a good idea.

smooth87 August 24 2006, 01:12:36 UTC

i agree.

sikpupp4 August 23 2006, 19:22:54 UTC

i found my bf through myspace acouple of my friends have too...

darkknight0618 August 24 2006, 14:40:19 UTC

i found mine too.

smooth87 August 24 2006, 01:12:22 UTC

i dont like clubbing either, at least i dont go to gay clubs or anything i go to s8 normal clubs and then people gay and straight comes to me and ask me out you just let go and people will approach to you, once i met a guy in the bathroom of the mall was awkward but felt good to see he was THAT atracted to me.

smooth87 August 24 2006, 01:13:11 UTC

besides gayclubs are not fun cause the men that go there are mostly

women.

smooth87 August 24 2006, 01:13:30 UTC

i mean men there are very girly, the most.