So i embarrass her..... or i am myself

[lifeshighways]

yeah, now i remember what my mom said about pageants being political

Comments

[mindwolf77]

Go as normal mom. You want to dress gothy, thats cool, you want to be unobtrusive, be unobtrusive. There's no special values you're giving up to look "normal", its another costume meant to be worn under a certain circumstance. Nothings changed but your clothing.

In order to win the game -- you have to know the rules.

Noone's ever one a game of chess by getting to the other end of the board and saying "King Me" (Steve original quote..thank you thank you).

Right now I'm in a white turtleneck and name brand jeans ...because thats my natural "Style" ... nah ... but am I employed and have a roof over my head while so many others are pierced, dyed, and freaked out, and asking if you'd like fries with that burger. My morals and values remain the same, I feel in no way cheapened, and my life is drama free -- seems simple enough to me *shrug*

[lifeshighways]

somehow i knew you'd say something that would make me feel better... the whole "its just another costume" makes it not seem so bad...

btw... are you gonna come? I'd love to see you guys there! And i know Ericka would be in heaven seeing you guys there!

[ilovehounds]

you own a ton of clothes that aren't goth but are still "you" so why not wear those? there's a time and place to prove any point you want to make, but this should be about her.

btw, i just got your message on voicemail. (had the phone off all weekend). can you ask me on here or do you just want me to call tonight. SORRY!

[lifeshighways]

if you are telling two people to "mind their own business" would you say "mind your own business'" or would it remaind "mind your own business"

my baby told the older two to "mind their own business'" and made business plural(sp) the older two made fun of him and said business' is not a word... can you confirm or deny for us?

[blakdar]

Wow, that's tuff. That is a double edge coin. I mean if you go norm you are going against yourself, if you go dressed out she gets attention she does not want. I say go in between kinda of like going to work. Corp Goth. I recently had a similar experience with my son. I apparently told him I would not pierce my ears at some time and when he found out I did he got mad. I had to explain to him that people have the right to individuality and that when he is old enough to make those decisions he too will be able to decide how to dress, get tatttos and piercings etc.

[lifeshighways]

yeah im meeting in the middle... gonna be "Pageant Goth"... I have a beautiful black dress, and i'll just put some scarf on it, wear the hair up and keep it away from their gawking eyes, less liner on the lips and toned down eyes... still me but still calm so as not to embarrass...

Thanks for your imput!

[blakdar]

No problem.

[petzilla]

I've gotten that very same request from my DNA nugget and for him I did tone it down a little. When he's about I tend to lighten a bit and I really don't personally feel I'm selling out just trying to make thing s a bit easier for him cause I have to imagine having me for a parental unit can't be a cake walk. Now I'm on the other side of things with him, most of his good friends know me from when I was a hot topic whore and they know that I do still put on events and things in Columbia so I even got fussed at by him once when I went to his school and was just in a plain black pair of jeans and a black t-shirt. Personally though I would never ever ask my friends to change, to not dress and be what and who they are, it's not my place and in no way would I ever want to censor another. Your daughter, although she may not appreciate it now, is coming face to face with some of the most amazing people and people that do not let others guide them, if she follows you and those she has come to know even a little bit she will be something very

[lifeshighways]

thank you Pet!!!!
it's hard being "out there" as adults w/children, almost like we need our own support group... guess we kinda do.. each other *hugs*

any chance in hell we'd see you there? - slim to none huh?

oh and i still have your galactica stuff... will bring it to the staff meeting Wed!

love you... thanks again!

[petzilla]

there was a whole gothparents meetup thing going on but in Columbia there was never enough of us to get a thing together. I'm glad if I helped just a bit, it's not easy to have a kid and I know that they don't have it all that easy either sometimes I worry that I do not enough for my lil part of heaven. I'm hoping to just not even sure where I'll be tomorrow or the next day so recently haven't been commiting to much just showing up if I can, still hoping to be at the staff meeting. huggles back atcha!!

[tempest_sky]

I love you hon...but let this be Ericka's night. You won't be selling out...you will be showing your daughter that she is important to you AND that this is her time to shine.

[lifeshighways]

yeah i know... and im going to give in.. it IS her night to shine!
i so wish you could be here!

[tempest_sky]

I will be there in spirit! I am most confident that she will WIN! *blessings being bestowed upon her*

[yodanshadancer]

Ericka is so lucky to have you as a mom! Probably every teenager goes through a phase like that but most are the total opposite as her. Ther rest of the world thinks their moms are too plain and square -- I can't imagine what it would be like to have a mother as beautiful as you. I imagine those -are- political, or maybe not, but it seems to be reality to her. If you dressing a little differently one night gives her one less thing to worry about, I'd say, do it.

I'll be wearing my Merle Norman and Obsession. Clothing will be a be too formal for work but less formal than, say, wedding attire -- but somewhat normal. Please don't hold it against me. ;)