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[light_maddie]

I decided not to shut him out completely. I made a list of qualities that all of you have, and a list of the qualities that he's shown. I meet him Thursday, hopefully, and am going to give him the list, telling him that I can't hang out with him if he doesn't meet those qualities, or at least try. It's a pretty long list... and I'm not sure if he

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HIS list

[light_maddie]

Focused on ME getting to know HIM instead of the other way.
Selfish.
Uninformed and unwilling to ask when confused.
Stranger to emotions and confused when I showed emotion.
Told me external things, not what he thinks.
Lies.
Seems patient, but not sure yet.
Focused on external; not well-rounded with emotions or interests.
Bloated and pink-aka drinking. Chunky and not well-groomed or dressed.
20 year absence.
Religiously fanatical and Blind.
Thinks having lunch changes everything.
Constant emotion and energy. (none.)

[devilwilleatyou]

I could never imagine the fustration you have over your father. Yeah, my parents split up when I was two-months and my father was banging other women. He told the court I wasn't his kid just so he could get out of paying child support. You mentioned your father having pictures to sort of "prove" he was in your life, which is funny in how it's the same for me too. To get to the point of all I'm trying to say, he's here now and it sounds like he's attempting to make it up the only way he knows how. Sure, you don't have to respect him as a "good" father, yet acknowledge he's your father and he is the reason you're here, the way you are now. I'd personally never give up my current life to do it all over with my biological-parents still together. Don't you feel the same way? Would you be as wise today if he stayed? Would you have met Thomas, or any of your other friends?

[light_maddie]

I'm happy that they are divorced, this is true, but I'm not happy that for the ten years before the divorce, and the ten after, he didn't try to get to know me, but DID get to know my brother and sister. There is no excuse for that.