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[likkledibbun]

I come home and Mom yells at me about my deceptively careless way of doing things, though it's worked perfectly fine for the past 4 weeks or whatever. And when I tell her cool college stories, she becomes convinced that I'm not spending enough time on my studies, just because I feel like I'm having so much freaking fun. I miss being able to stay up

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[deformed_cookie]

I'm the same, don't worry about it. Chinese families generally brainwash their children about family and loyalty and respect and all that stuff, and it's just not the same growing up in a Chinese family in America. Here, we leave home at 18 and never look back. We'll visit our "parent's place" from time to time, but it's not "home" anymore.

I don't miss my parents or sister at all, and lately I've been calling them a lot less and I can't be bothered to feel bad about it. Their lives are so static and unchanging and single-mindedly focused on the same things every day and I just really don't care, as harsh as that seems. I still love them. I just don't miss them. :/

[arbitraryster]

I don't think you're a horrible person for not missing them. I mean, parents, to put it harshly, reap what they sow. Just because they had children doesn't mean the kids are obligated to miss them--it's how they later choose to interact with their kids that matter. If they choose to criticize and put down their kids all the time, it's not too surprising the kids might not want much to do with them.

I'm not sure I care much for either the American or Chinese way of doing things. I just make up my own version of the transitional years as I go along. Home seems to be tied to my mind, not any particular people or places...which makes me feel like a bit of a jerk.