Hiya jess its been a long time!!! I would be the same as well. Your better off telling him how you feel though as otherwise it will build up inside of you and then you'll burst! Be open its the best way! I think its unreasonable of him to expect you to be comfortable with him seeing his ex! How would he feel if it was the other way around? I have Gareth's ex in my face most weeks but thats because they have a son together! I hate it (want to claw her eyes out lol) he hates seeing her aswell but we have to because of his son! I would never be comfortable about him socialising with her or any of his ex girlfirends! Hope it all works out for you hun!
It really has been so long!!! :( Well, just tried seeing if he wanted me to phone him n talk but he's too busy so that's answered that for me. The decorating is obviously more important than our relationship. No doubt when I do tell him, he'll only go off on one anyway and blame it on me not trusting him. I just don't think it's normal people being friends with their ex's [unless in situations like Gareth's obv where they HAVE too], it's like some unwritten rule, it just doesn't happen. Yet he seems to think it's perfectly normal and that's why it makes me wonder if he's not over her yet. I dunno how to tell him again (cuz the amount i've told him before is ridiculous) that i don't feel secure right now and he doesn't help me at all by doing things like this. URGH!! Men. xxx
I remember when Gareth used to talk to this girl he used to work with and it used to annoy me. I played it cool for so long and then it built up into a rage inside me! I let rip in the end! He did the whole do you not trust me etc but the thing is I do trust him but that still didnt mean I was happy with it! I trusted my Ex and he cheated on me with someone form his work! In the end I said I wasnt comfortable with it so he had to choose. I felt bad cos mayb she would have just been a friend but I had to protect our relationship! Luckily he chose me lol I dont think its normal being friends with an Ex either. Cos surely she is an Ex girlfirend for a reason lol If you get what I mean. God im probably making you feel ten times worse lol You need to tell him you dont feel secure. Although you can only do that if he will speak to you lol
Yeah, well I've already banned him from speaking to his best friend cuz she's in love with him and it's just weird. I made him choose then. I just don't want him to think i'm ruling and controlling his life cuz that's what he hated his ex for and why he cheated on her so much. Though the way I'm acting at the moment I can see us going down that route cuz he can't see that it's actually not me with the problem but him. If he didn't do things to make me feel insecure then I wouldn't, right?
Exactly, that's what I think. Ex's are ex's for a reason. But yeah, you aren't making me feel insecure. I do need to tell him I just don't know how because we've had this conversation so many times in relation to his best mate and it's never got us anywhere so I don't see what it'll achieve this time to be honest. He is willing to speak now but I don't know what to say.
Yeah I see what you mean about coming across as controlling him but maybe if his other girlfirend was like it then mayb it is him that needs to change? The fact that you know he has cheated before probably doesnt help with the way you feel either but he must be able to see that. Trust has to be earned you cant just trust someone straight away! You are right though you wouldnt feel insecure if he didnt do things to make you feel that way!
your not being unreasonable at all - an ex is an ex for a reason! when i found out phil was talking to his ex on facebook ages ago i flipped out at him coz he has no need to talk to her. that all kind of blew over but then i found out last week he'd been speaking to her best friend on facebook. i think boys are just stupid and really dont understand that we dont want them talking to ex's! like i dunno if i told you about when phil read my wall to wall with tom from like early last year, he got angry at that & i was like err but i've not spoken to him since it all ended. silly boysss xxx
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I would be the same as well. Your better off telling him how you feel though as otherwise it will build up inside of you and then you'll burst! Be open its the best way! I think its unreasonable of him to expect you to be comfortable with him seeing his ex! How would he feel if it was the other way around? I have Gareth's ex in my face most weeks but thats because they have a son together! I hate it (want to claw her eyes out lol) he hates seeing her aswell but we have to because of his son! I would never be comfortable about him socialising with her or any of his ex girlfirends!
Hope it all works out for you hun!
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Well, just tried seeing if he wanted me to phone him n talk but he's too busy so that's answered that for me. The decorating is obviously more important than our relationship. No doubt when I do tell him, he'll only go off on one anyway and blame it on me not trusting him. I just don't think it's normal people being friends with their ex's [unless in situations like Gareth's obv where they HAVE too], it's like some unwritten rule, it just doesn't happen. Yet he seems to think it's perfectly normal and that's why it makes me wonder if he's not over her yet. I dunno how to tell him again (cuz the amount i've told him before is ridiculous) that i don't feel secure right now and he doesn't help me at all by doing things like this. URGH!! Men.
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I dont think its normal being friends with an Ex either. Cos surely she is an Ex girlfirend for a reason lol If you get what I mean. God im probably making you feel ten times worse lol You need to tell him you dont feel secure. Although you can only do that if he will speak to you lol
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Exactly, that's what I think. Ex's are ex's for a reason. But yeah, you aren't making me feel insecure. I do need to tell him I just don't know how because we've had this conversation so many times in relation to his best mate and it's never got us anywhere so I don't see what it'll achieve this time to be honest. He is willing to speak now but I don't know what to say.
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when i found out phil was talking to his ex on facebook ages ago i flipped out at him coz he has no need to talk to her. that all kind of blew over but then i found out last week he'd been speaking to her best friend on facebook. i think boys are just stupid and really dont understand that we dont want them talking to ex's! like i dunno if i told you about when phil read my wall to wall with tom from like early last year, he got angry at that & i was like err but i've not spoken to him since it all ended. silly boysss
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