Wow, you're in a tough situation. I think if you can't make the payment, then you should ask your friend for help. But don't think it won't change your friendship. Unless she is a stand up girl who thinks she SHOULD help...chances are you guys will have some friendship issues afterwards. Friends and money don't mix. But I don't think you should have to pay the bills yourself either. Whether that means insurance covers it, or your friend...I don't think it should come from your wallet.
When it happened did your friend say anything? Did she offer to help in anyway? I don't think you should bring up the 60g she got.
Can you talk to her? Call her, BS, ask how she is, etc. Then say 'I have a problem. I can't afford to pay the bills from when your dog bit my arm. What do you think I should do?' Maybe she'll answer your question for you and then all this worry is for nothing...
You're right, this will change our friendship. I can tell that without her even knowing about the $, it already has.
She has never offered to pay anything, not a dime. She knew I had to fork out a good deal of money for my antibiotics at the pharmacy. Never a WORD.
I don't think I should have to pay for this crap. She invited me over, the dog attacked me unexpectedly, at no fault of mine or hers. In some ways, I could see that she wouldn't want to pay because it was a freak incident. But this is her dog and it has bit before. She's a lawsuit waiting to happen (not me of course, but if he does it again).
I think I may call and chat with her this evening. Even half would help a lot. I've got so many things coming up in the next few weeks, I can't afford to worry about this.
The whole story.....lilangel01February 2 2005, 18:22:10 UTC
Some of you may remember my post about my best friend who was in a car wreck with her boyfriend, which he was killed. Well she has been confined to her house for the days since due to her injuries and me being the good friend that I am have been visiting her quite often. Well Friday night, I ventured over to her house to spend some time with her and give her a break from her mom. Upon entering, her dog growled at me and I petted him and he was fine. From there I moved on to her bedroom to say hi and walked back into the living room. Chance walked up to me and I bent down to pet him and he lunged - at my arm! He tore a huge chunk of skin out and I panicked! We tried to bandage my arm up the best we could and then I left to go home. My husband (who is also an EMT besides being a firefighter) looked at my arm and said that I needed to go to the ER first thing the next morning.
I agree with luv2beincontrol. Sure, she might get defensive about it all, but it's probably best to kinda sneak in the back way and ask the same question, just indirectly. It might, however, be hard for her to see why or how she should help you when she has been through such a traumatic experience. I guess all I want to say (in addition to how well luv2beincontrol put it, is to not go into the conversation expecting anything. Just roll with it. If you get the vibe from her that she's not coughing up a penny, I'd let it go. It all depends on what you're really looking for.
Money never mixes well with anyone else but yourself.
p.s. I'm really bad at this because I come off as abrasive in the advice-type situations, but I want you to know I'm not trying to be. :)
See, it can be seen from two different ways... One, it unexpectedly attacked out of nowhere, it could have just been a freak accident... Two, it DID attack, and its her dog, and its attacked before
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When it happened did your friend say anything? Did she offer to help in anyway? I don't think you should bring up the 60g she got.
Can you talk to her? Call her, BS, ask how she is, etc. Then say 'I have a problem. I can't afford to pay the bills from when your dog bit my arm. What do you think I should do?' Maybe she'll answer your question for you and then all this worry is for nothing...
Good luck.
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She has never offered to pay anything, not a dime. She knew I had to fork out a good deal of money for my antibiotics at the pharmacy. Never a WORD.
I don't think I should have to pay for this crap. She invited me over, the dog attacked me unexpectedly, at no fault of mine or hers. In some ways, I could see that she wouldn't want to pay because it was a freak incident. But this is her dog and it has bit before. She's a lawsuit waiting to happen (not me of course, but if he does it again).
I think I may call and chat with her this evening. Even half would help a lot. I've got so many things coming up in the next few weeks, I can't afford to worry about this.
Thanks for your comment!
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Money never mixes well with anyone else but yourself.
p.s. I'm really bad at this because I come off as abrasive in the advice-type situations, but I want you to know I'm not trying to be. :)
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