Fuck.

[lilly_lives]

Had a wonderful suprise visit from my mum and stepfather today.  They were there when I got home from work and it was lovely sitting chatting to them and watching the kitties play while Anthony (bro) discussed wiring the shed with Dave

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[rosie_t_riveter]

Oh no! How awful for you and your mum. Big hugs.

Don't worry about your reaction, this is a big shock for you and how you feel is how you feel. You can't change it and suppressing your emotions will only lead to more problems further down the line. You say your mum has known for a while, so I'm certain that she's done her crying and is now in a different stage of the process of coming to terms with her diagnosis. You've just been told, so of course you'll respond differently.

From the sounds of it you're not an emotional retard. If you weren't crying and responding the way you are, then I'd be worried. And don't feel you have to be strong all the time, let other people look after you for a bit. You've had a big shock and need support. I hope you get it.

[lilly_lives]

Thanks Rosie, I think I just felt a bit like I was being dramatic, or drawing the attention, or something. I feel a bit more normal after a long talkl with Dave and a bit of sleep. Spoke to my mum again too, which helped.

She's known for about a month, and so has probably become quite 'used' to it - or at least has reached a stage where she is focussing on what happens next rather than the illness itself.

Thanks honey, that did help a lot. Hope you, baby and Nick are doing well. Big hugs!

[maviscruet]

There is nothing wrong with bursting into tears when you get news like that. I know I did.

No matter what stress or problems you have had - still your mother. And no matter how much we know about lose and illness - it is a world of difference when it actually happens.

So have a big hug.

[lilly_lives]

Thanks Mave x

[maviscruet]

You do need to also remember that this might well all be fine - depends on a whole ton of stuff. My mum went through this and out the other side.

We were all doom and gloom - and Dad just refused to accept it might happen. Turns out the old bugger was right after all.

Before you know it she might be annoying the arse of you again. Or is that just me and my Mum?

More hugs.

[lilly_lives]

I see what you mean, thanks missus, :)

[electrodruid]

Eep. Ouch. *hugs*

I don't know what to say except to echo other people's sentiments that there's no "right" or "wrong" or "should" or "shouldn't" in how you react to this. Do what you've got to do.

I'm rubbish at talking about things, but I'll try to phone you tonight so we can discuss filing cabinets full of marmosets, or unicycles made of muesli, or some other such bollocks. If that'll help?

[lilly_lives]

Would be great. :D

[copper13]

Oh lovey, poor you and your mum. *massive hugs*
There's absolutely nothing wrong, in any way, with your reaction. Shock does that to you, and it's perfectly ok.

And actually, it is unfair to you. The whole thing is unfair. It's unfair on your mum and it's unfair on you. Neither of you deserve this. Cry away and when the tears stop you'll feel calmer and it will be a little easier to talk.
*more hugs*