Do you have any words or everyday things you encounter that no matter how long ago it was, you see/hear it and it puts you back in an uncomfortable position every time
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I do get that way over things I said, or did ...and I try to tell myself that I can't change that. It doesn't help the feeling so much, but it helps me push the memory away. That's pretty much how I deal with that stuff. Turn and push. lol Adventure Time References for the win...
it was what triggered the memory this time, but it is nothing to feel bad about, i mean it is a normally innocuous word and you had no idea. i run into it often enough anyway :)
i could have written it over any number of small triggers for those same types of feelings :/
I think you just decide to forgive yourself and move on. One thing I learned from my many years of therapy... Imagine your story happened to your BEST FRIEND and they feel everything you feel. What would you say to them? Would you berate them and call them names and laugh at them? So why do the same to yourself? Talk to yourself as you would your best friend. It's hard and takes a lot of work, but it does work. I no longer absolutely hate myself for any of the shit I've done. For instance, for years I was slutty. I slept around out of loneliness and the need for love. That being said, I still can't forgive myself for being clingy. Cried about that at my last therapy session 2 weeks ago. I think we'll have to discuss that some more because, I mean, seriously, I can forgive myself for sleeping around, but not for being a super clingy girlfriend? Any way, the point is, it IS possible to forgive yourself. And oddly enough, having that memory and a break down is the first step. Just, please, remember, talk to yourself like you would a
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It won't, I know :D. You'll realize in a few months, if the memory comes back, that it hurts a little less. I used to be absolutely terrified of the severely mentally handicapped. I didn't know until I came into close contact with one and I was terrified. I was attacked on the bus by one when I was 15 or so. I shared that with the people around me at the time... And a few years later I noticed they barely scared me at all.
My spouse person mispronounces words at times to such a degree that it takes us forever to figure out what it was he meant to say. The classic one now is
psy - co - paren - ze -ah
That one actually took far longer for me to figure out. What he meant was schizophrenic. He take it in stride though for the most part. It's only natural that we would not know how to pronounce a word we've only read.
my MIL uses words all the time that are just ... not... right. they are words, but not in context, or she will add extra letters or something. drives me nuts.
i can certainly see how that one would puzzle you for a while. lol
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Seriously. *hugs*
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i am known for being too hard on myself, my mom says it started before i was 1. lol. oops.
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*hugs*
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i could have written it over any number of small triggers for those same types of feelings :/
*hugs*
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You probably shouldn't read Game Of Thrones. They talk about 'dragon glass' a lot.
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i am hoping that now that i have shared this particular experience it won't be as... tender as it was.
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psy - co - paren - ze -ah
That one actually took far longer for me to figure out. What he meant was schizophrenic. He take it in stride though for the most part. It's only natural that we would not know how to pronounce a word we've only read.
Sorry you had such an upsetting experience!
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i can certainly see how that one would puzzle you for a while. lol
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