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limelight15

social retard

Nov 16, 2006 21:15

As the subject says, I am pretty much a social retard. I am pretty awkward to begin with, but in France, where there isn’t much in the way of awkward, I am completely maladroit. My host mom’s dad has been really really sick, dying, in fact, for the past two months. I’ve been worried about it, and in the beginning, when she first started going to ( Read more... )

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luckinglass November 16 2006, 21:46:49 UTC

I wouldn't have known what to say either. I always end up waiting for the other person to bring it up and then I feel terrible for not having done so before them but it's like it's not my business to talk about their death so I don't know if they want to mention it or not and omg it's awkward.

but i'm really glad everything turned out okay with the family.

limelight15 November 16 2006, 21:51:14 UTC

yes I'm glad too. I think my host mom has completely forgiven me, and understands why I was so "maladroit."

It's a little terrible that you and I are awkward in the same way in these situations - deciding that the best thing to do is nothing at all. ("wait-and-see tribe" Scrubs episode season 2, with JD and Elliott . . . we'll watch it at some point.)

ladyjemanny November 17 2006, 01:22:43 UTC

i totally agree with what luckinglass said: it's completely natural to not know how to react when something so awful happens... but no matter how awkwardly you feel like you handled it, you are a really good person, and i'm sure your host mom could see that.

i can't imagine how i would deal with all that you're going through... when i was in spain i felt so awkward around the family that i spent a lot of time alone in my room... lame, i know! but i never knew what to say to anyone...

i hope you feel better soon!

(also, if you still feel bad about what happened, you can send the family a card or buy them some flowers--i think that's a pretty universal gesture, and even if it doesn't get across all that you're feeling, it can still express a lot without having to say anything.)

limelight15 November 17 2006, 06:28:58 UTC

thanks Emily. At least you and my brother have the same reaction. And it's good to hear you were just as awkward with your family . . . it's like we Americans don't know how to behave outside of our own families for an extended amount of time.

I am going to try to send some flowers, I'm going to talk to the director of the program to ask her how to go about doing so.

How's NU treated you this quarter? Ready for break?

ladyjemanny November 17 2006, 07:40:37 UTC

i just remember that when i was staying with the family in spain i felt more like an intruder than a guest... not because they treated me that way, just because i felt like such an outsider. it was definitely a lot harder than i expected it to be!

NU... ugh, i am more than ready for break!!! i just had this traumatic experience in my music technology class involving missing audio files and losing my work about 5 times...lol, at least i've got everything working now though! in any case, because i'm an idiot, i'm taking 5 classes and finals/reading weeks are going to be nightmareish.

limelight15 November 18 2006, 10:35:42 UTC

Yeah, why are you taking 5 classes? I did it once, and I remember sleeping very little from about the third week of the quarter until the end. And by very little I mean like 3 hours a night for 3 or 4 consecutive nights . . . I don't know how I did it. It certainly wasn't fun, by any means.

Good luck with all that end of quarter stuff, and I guess I'll see you in January . . . you can hang out at the apartment, lol.