miss anthrope

[liminalia]

The more I contemplate what I'm taking in and putting out in the world, the more I realize how many of my blog posts and anecdotes boil down to, "Other people are stupid and/or wrong."

I don't want to be that person.

Comments

[samiitiger]

I second seferin's thoughts.

I know that's what much of my journal boils down to, as well, but it's a way for me to decompress and to achieve a small bit of catharsis.

[anonymousblack]

so this is a very important thing for me to see, right now, because it's something i'm struggling with, myself.

i think as emotional abuse survivors, it's important to have a period when we learn to distinguish what we feel is intelligent, helpful, reasonable behavior from abusive behavior - behavior that has been inflicted upon us and is, by its very nature, "stupid" and "wrong." this of course comes up when we first emerge from a long-term abusive situation, but it can also manifest after dealing with something that echoes a past relationship. i've had it triggered by television shows.

learning the distinction is a coping mechanism as well as a survival skill. some people have been conditioned to tolerate abuse from such an incredibly young age they never learned what it is like to not be mistreated. then there's period of, you know, floodgates. "oh my god, there are people i know, people who are close to me and acquaintances i have contact with every day... and they can be wrong! not only that, they can be flat-out ignorant!