"Crashing"

[lin_transman]

A lot of people talk about crashing after a scene or event. Casey asked me how my head was yesterday, but I had no clue what she meant. She asked if I ever crash after an event. As I thought about that while mowing the lawn this morning, I realized I don't even really know what that means. I suspect it might be different for different people,

Comments

[boy_wonderwolf]

If you think of play as this incredible euphoric high, the higher you go, the further you are from whatever your normal state of being is. For some, coming back down is gradual and slow so the effects aren't as dramatic. Yet others crash back down which intensifies their feelings.

Crashing for me usually happens the next day. The endorphin rush is over. No matter how much fun the scene was, my body now really hurts. Add to that I'm sad and sometimes weepy that the scene is over. I want to snuggle with, be reassured that the scene went well, or at least be in the presence of the person I played with. It helps lesson the affects of the drop.

No matter where I am, even if I'm on the opposite coast, SC is always available to me to provide this sort of aftercare. I don't always need this level of care. It really varies from scene to scene and person to person.

[lin_transman]

When I play, I get all floaty. When that wears off, I draw a deep breath and feel very relaxed. Then I sleep well and it's all over - except the pain that stays for however long... The next morning, I ususally feel great and ready to tackle the world! My head is clear, my body feels better, and I feel refreshed.

Thanks for explaining how that works for you. It's fascinating to hear what sort of impact it has on others. It's helping me to be able to better relate to what someone means when they experience that.

[nyghtowl]

Crashing happens to me after a scene when I've used all my energy all the gas in my tank on the bottom, I become exhausted, listless and very quiet. Doesnt happen as much when I have multiple tops I'm working with but it does in one-on-ones where I've used all my physical, mental, spiritual energy on the bottom.

[lin_transman]

That makes perfect sense to me. I've topped some scenes where it was a challenge to see who would drop first - me or the bottom! Scenes like that sure raise a tremendous amount of energy. When it's over, there is a let-down period. I've always assumed it to be sheer exhaustion from energy depletion, similar to what happens after a major sports competition. It feels very much like the way it did when I used to step out of the boxing ring. I'd expended everything I had and needed a short period of recuperation before doing anything else. After a scene, there are times when pushing to stay with it to give appropriate after-care as long as necessary is a challenge and postpones my opportunity to experience the release that comes at the conclusion, when our respective energies are no longer as intertwined

[anonymous]

Thanks for sharing your perspective. I can relate to the "I don't wanna!" aspect of dropping back into the realm of responsibilities and obligations, but then I feel that way on a fairly frequent basis. ;>) I'd certainly rather be playing, socializing, kayaking...

Crashing

[dieselfemme]

I'm addressing the scene scenario and "crash" both when I top and bottom.

The physical goings-on of endorphins coursing thru my veins and then leaving generally causes me to be tired.

My head space is definitely vulnerable and physical closeness of some kind - hugging, sitting entangled, lying down spooned, being petted/rubbed/lightly scratched - comforting types - feels almost necessary to assure me/them that everything "is good".

Bottoming often leaves me feeling more open in the head & heart - someone said something about relasing all the toxins - and I feel that, too - kinda "cleaned out" - like I took out the trash or cleared out a patch of weeds in the yeard and all that's left is good, clean, dirt.

It's difficult to put some of it all in words, too. Just writing this little bit has taken some serious thought to get from my head to the fingertips.

Re: Crashing

[lin_transman]

Thank you for contributing to my understanding of crashiing. It's interesting to see the similarities and differences in perspectives that various people experience. I was truely at a loss when it came to knowing what was meant by the term. I just accepted that it was something that happened to a lot of people after a scene, but it helps a lot to know more about what it involves. I, too, can relate to the idea of releasing all the toxins when I bottom. It leaves me with a much clearer head on my shoulders than when I started the scene (after I get over being all stoooopid)!