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[lines_of_escape]

I have to go out drinking/dancing with Jess more. She is awesome at making unwanted guys go away. I will have to try to learn from her because I get awkward and I don't know what to do and I default to being civil, which is a terrible idea but I'm usually too drunk to understand that

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[banger170]

that's what happens when a pair of hotties like ourselves go out! unwanted guys all over the place. now, if i could only get some wanted guys to hit on me!

and yes, let's go out more : )

[durdent]

This entry is exactly why I never, ever, talked to a girl in a bar. All I'd be thinking is, "she's going to write a blog entry about how I tried to talk to her and I shouldn't have."

[new_test_leper]

Yeah, I'm just about to start putting myself out there, but this gives me pause. Like should there be some sort of governing body that ranks people on their attractiveness and makes it illegal for me to approach women deemed "out of my league"? Because I don't think I should necessarily get treated horribly for trying to talk to an attractive woman. Like you know, say being burned on the hand with a lit cigarette.

[durdent]

People like us need to go to places where women like us would be. Bell towers, sewers, and mental institutions come to mind. And not clean and modern mental institutions, only those old nasty gothic ones like Danvers and shit.

[lines_of_escape]

It's not really anything to do with how you look, it's how you initiate the conversation.

"So, where are you from?" was the first thing the guy said. He didn't say "hi," or "excuse me," or anything else. To me, that comes across as awkward. If someone walked up to you at say, an office party, or something, and immediately said "so, where are you from?" wouldn't you wonder if they had some sort of stunted social skills?

Another guy came up and sat down right next to me while Jess and I were sitting at a booth back in the corner of the bar, in mid-conversation, and he interrupted us to say something (I don't remember what). It's just rude behavior.

I think the key here is that bars are shitty places to meet people. There's no real "in" to get a conversation started with someone. Plus it's really really difficult to convey "I am just here with my female friend to have a good time, we are not necessarily looking to hook up with you!" Next time maybe we will try making out on the dance floor. Would that even work?