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lisa

How to Last

Jan 03, 2007 22:58

You probably wouldn't know it from looking at me, but I've been in a relationship with the same man for the last five and a half years. We're not married, have never lived together, and currently I live about 1,000 miles away from him ( Read more... )

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wingedcorset January 4 2007, 07:20:20 UTC

I don't have anything to add as I haven't had a functional relationship in perhaps ever.

But thank you. #s 2 and 4 are especially pertinent right now, but the whole list is being saved for future reference.

lisa January 4 2007, 07:26:51 UTC

What is "functional"??? Thanks I'm glad you found some use in it! #2 is maybe the hardest one of all, after the bits about apologizing.

p0stmdrnpr1mt1v January 4 2007, 07:21:36 UTC

thanks for posting this.
I've been seeing someone for a month, and our 40 mile separation seems hellish. these do sound like some great tips.

lisa January 4 2007, 07:29:18 UTC

Considering who you're seeing, I can understand why you might be hating the distance! Sometimes I can't believe I've been out here for a year, but sometimes the distance feels like the easiest thing we've had to deal with. It just happens to be the easiest thing to blame ;)

i love this post! fisticuffs January 4 2007, 07:30:42 UTC

and not just because it's a reminder that great relationships come in all flavors ( ... )

Re: i love this post! lisa January 4 2007, 07:34:54 UTC

ooh I love these. I wanted to put something about fighting (not just apologizing) but I didn't know how to say, Fighting is Good! without condoning some sort of horrible domestic violence situation. You said it well. Better to fight and get it out than be passive aggressive or just plain steeping in your unhappyness.

Re: i love this post! fisticuffs January 4 2007, 07:46:10 UTC

i worry about my friends who never fight! not that i think it should be fight night all the time. but you shouldn't be afraid to speak your mind. but you should also realize your partner has a valid opinion, too.

of course, i'm no authority. but i've learned lessons from failed relationships and from the 5 year successful one I'm in now.

Re: i love this post! llarian January 4 2007, 17:27:24 UTC

I was gonna say what worked for me and got me back together (this time for good!) with my girlfriend, but I think you pretty much hit all the good points...

Gonna have to remember some of these that I didn't think of. =)

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lisa January 4 2007, 08:04:53 UTC

I guess, but if you've got your part down you won't waste too much time worrying about their shit.

scosol January 4 2007, 07:33:52 UTC

you guys should break up-

no hahah- sounds good to me :)

lisa January 4 2007, 08:03:35 UTC

...thanks!