i need a confidence boost

[little_emmy]

i read magazines with skinny gorgeous girls in it.. and i keep thinking to myself.. What is beauty? Guys always drool at the pretty girls who walk around mississauga wearing practically nothing and they feel it is necessary to lower their standards to date girls like me who aren't beauty queens because they know they can have an actual relationship

Comments

[kushandkismet]

That's not true, you know. I mean, it seems like it but the truth is that beauty is really subjective, and different people want different things. Some girls will be the girls some guys fool around with, and then to other guys, they'll be the girls they marry. It totally depends on the person. Not to mention that even if "girls like you" are the ones that guys want to marry, it doesn't mean they're not madly attracted to you, it just means you have a better personality and they like you more. It's not as bad as you say it is. Being in a relationship doesn't always mean he's settling for you.

What's important, anyways, isn't what beauty is to everyone else, it's what beauty is to you. It's that you need to be comfortable in your own skin and you should be the one to do that for you, not some guy. Don't depend on a guy to make you feel good about yourself because that's just a temporary fix. Find out what you don't like, come to terms with it, and then change it. Until you do it for yourself, you'll never feel beautiful. True story.

[oopz]

hey em, your friends points are very true.

also, the underlying reason (usually) that people are attracted to each other is the self confidence level. that would explain the reason why these toothpicks get attention, they have a high self confidence level, coincidently making anyone who does not look like them have a low self confidence.

don't get me wrong, i am not telling you to be 100lb and wear 2lb of makeup! just go out in the world, live your life the way YOU want to, and be confident of everything you do. i know you can do it ^_^

[panzerkorps]

Personlly, as a guy, I find skinny-ass 100 lb girls with 2 lbs ofmakeup on disgusting.

[awesome_anne]

i agree. some guys want the girl to fool around with, but do you really want to be with a guy who puts looks as his first priority in a relationship? like thats just not heathly.
--anne<3.
ps. you are beautiful.